Did you see Timothy today? We went to our first couples therapy session together. I go to therapy on my own, and have always enjoyed it. Life passes by so quickly, and I like having an hour a week to reflect in an attempt to learn and grow from it all. Did anything interesting happen? She asked us straight away if Tim and I were attracted to each other. After some awkward glances, we both admitted that we do find each other attractive.
Tim immediately rattled out numerous reasons: He loves the freedom of the single life. He sees it as a weakness that I love love. Did you learn anything new about Timothy? I learned early on that money does not make me happy.
There are actually statistics that show that salary increase only make people happier until basic needs of food and water are met. Did you learn anything new about yourself? Tim seems extremely overwhelmed by the idea of having to see me every day for this project. He almost had a panic attack when I sent him a list of date ideas for the next week! I do love to plan things and have a schedule. However, I also greatly enjoy spontaneity.
So far so good. Is there anything that you want to do differently? In therapy we talked about how I am extremely picky about who I date. However, when I do decide I really like someone, I am quick to jump into a relationship in order to test it out and see how it goes. I become extremely invested in people and things that I care about, which can cause me to fall for someone quickly. Tim thinks I should be more cautious… Additional comments? Tim is right, I do love love. Apparently, the feeling of falling in love is wired in us to help the survival of our species.
While sexual desire exists to make sure we pop out babies, the feelings of love exists to promote bonding and pairing between mates to increase the survival rate of the children.
Chemicals like dopamine and norepinephrine are released when in love. The chemicals increases energy, increases focus, and helps make us feel fucking awesome all the time. In fact, research shows brain activity in love is almost identical to our brain activity on cocaine.