Here are 50 fun, personal questions to help get you started. A psychologist at the State University of New York at Stony Brook wanted to know how people were able to form romantic relationships with strangers they just met.
Arthur Aron had an hour to create intimacy levels between couples usually done over the course of weeks or months together, so he decided to create a set of questions that could elicit this type of connection. At the end of the experiment, he was both surprised and happy to note the subjects did feel a stronger connection to their counterparts compared to the control group. How did he do it? By giving the couples a set of personal questions they could ask each other on the first date. Why does exchanging personal information work?
By telling your date about some personal non-TMI stuff during the first date, you are essentially letting them get to know you better at a rapid rate as opposed to just letting the getting-to-know-you stage play at its own pace.
By asking personal questions immediately, you are essentially hacking your love life. When a person finds out something personal about you, they will be able to sympathize or empathize with you. These two components are what makes relationships work. So, what do you do? You either cultivate a connection using personal questions or express yourself by sharing these personal things during the conversation on the first date.
Try these 60 get-to-know-you questions for a new romance ] What types of personal questions can you ask? Now, this is the tricky part. There is such a thing as too personal. Some questions might be inappropriate and there are also some things best left said on the first date.
Do not ask anything about: Save that for when you start sleeping together. Let them express themselves about this on their own time. Neither of you should really discuss this without consulting with a professional.
You do not want to go there. Although this is not an interview, it is still a way for you to gauge how they react to certain topics and how they express themselves—either honestly or with reservations. No matter what they say though, the very act of sharing will definitely help you grow closer. Here are some examples you may use during your first date: What was it like growing up? Would you have changed anything? How well do you know me? We hope these tips and personal questions can help you find the love of your life or at least your love for the night!
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