Single parent dating by Chrissie There is nothing that makes a group of men, or any individual man, cringe faster than the notion of dating a single mom. On the other hand, for this reason, many men also view the single mom as a great opportunity for a fling.
It is and the United States Census indicates that America is home to over 11 million single parents. The chances that you as a single man will find yourself dating one then, are pretty good. This is the age of the blended family, and for every family, that carries a different meaning. If you find that you are interested in, attracted to, or seriously wanting to build a relationship with a single mom, there are some things you should know.
Dating a single mom offers a wide range of benefits. Here are some tips to help you get the most out of dating a single mom, or even to simply encourage you to give it a shot. This step is more for your protection than anything else.
You certainly can be a player if that is all you are looking for, but unless you know for sure that the single mom you are wooing wants the same thing, this could seriously backfire on you. You never know, her game plan may be just the same as yours, even if that fling is all you are looking for. Be genuine and sincere, hint, be yourself, and she will welcome the opportunity to spend some time with you.
If it does get to the point where you meet the kids, be yourself once again. Kids are almost smarter than single parents and will know when someone is being fake with them. Be nice to them, and show genuine interest in them. Use your imagination here and be creative. Romance works best when it is unexpected and not obvious. Small attention to details will sweep her off her feet more than grandiose gestures will.
She may not be able to plan too much ahead of time either. Every situation with every single mom is different, but being flexible will make both of your lives a little easier. You may find you have to meet midweek for lunch instead of Saturday night for dinner, or head to a matinee on the weekend instead of an evening show.
Just be willing to be flexible. She may not even be sure which ones are at the top all of the time because they all seem mission critical to her. Some days you may find yourself wondering where you fall in her priority list, and this is where flexibility and communication come in. If she is including you in her life, then she wants you in her life. Be flexible and communicate often, and she will find a way to show you just how big a priority you are to her.
Be Considerate of Her Time The single mom is generally torn between her kids, her social life, and a million other responsibilities that she has no one to share with. If you call her up on a Saturday afternoon for a date that night, it is very likely she will turn you down.
Find out about the custody arrangement of her kids and you'll know when she's free unless of course she's out with the girls! It shouldn't be that hard to get her to pick you over them. Also find out about when her kids' have vacations and you can be a step ahead planning anything with her. In fact, The Talk is a great way for the both of you to discover what page you are both on.
By taking care of this conversation early in the relationship, you will both save yourselves a lot of potential heartache, and time. You must be really into this woman. Most single moms or single dads are hesitant to take this step until she is pretty sure you are both on the same path.
Treat this occasion delicately, and treat it with the respect and appreciation it deserves. Be honored that she is including you in the most important part of her life.
She will take the steps necessary to make it easier for you. Take heart in the knowledge that this is not only possible, but likely. Talks will resume between mom and the kids as time goes on, but this is an issue with the kids, not with you. Let Mom handle this one. If this relationship has longevity, she will work on them. Keep being genuine, but most of all, have patience.
With time, those kids will learn exactly why mom is so crazy about you. If you are considering a relationship with a single mom, it may seem at first like you are taking on the entire luggage claim from the latest Delta Flight.
Single mothers are among the most mature, responsible, and loving people on the planet. They are always juggling something, but always looking for some love and friendship and healthy adult relationships as well. Go in open-minded, patient, understanding, and most importantly, sincere.
If this relationship is meant to be, the rest will fall into place.