I happened to run into this article by accident. So glad to have found this. Tina April 1, at 5: I am in a fwb relationship with a co worker. After sex we cuddled and watched some shows and the next night we went downtown and strolled.
He held my hand, randomly kissed me and so on. Even during work whenever he was free he would come to my station and surprise me with a quick kiss or a hug. There is plenty of secting going on between us but most of the time its just normal conversation.
He wants me to spend some time with him before the next trip too. Is he still interested in making this something more even though he denies it? Because only one or two rules apply to us right now. I tried talking to him about it but it barely gets anywhere. Curious Cat May 28, at 9: He became very affectionate with me in front of his family. He has spent time with my son and done father figure type things with me.
I think he is trying to take it out of the FWB zone for sure. I just really like his company and we have tons in common. Emma June 7, at 6: We see each other outside of the sex. We go to dinner, the movies and concerts. We have never had a problem with jealousy or love. We came into this relationship with very clear and concise rules, and we both follow them. We were friends before we entered into this, for almost 3 years.
I think it can work with a friend. They are someone you can trust more to be honest with you. It IS about more than just sex. To keep it going there has to be mutual respect. Being mature, knowing what you what, what they want and sticking to the rules is what makes this type of relationship last.
You have to be willing to be friends, or this is just acquaintance sex….. Jen July 11, at I have a past of abuse and very bad experiences with men. However i am not a hateful or vengeful woman, i think personally i am a prize. Met this guy 3 months ago, i wanted to date. Become friends and have fun. See where it takes me. ON our 2nd date i mentioned my past fwb. How i wanted fwb, and it worked but i wanted to experience dating.
So we agreed to be fwb. However we both are confused as to what our goal in life is. He says things and makes comments that pertain to long term. And i fell for it. So I was misinterpreting him. Thinking we are in this fwb, with the potential for long term. And neither is he. But suddenly he has brought a new woman into the picture and has feelings for her. So i am confused as to why we are in this fwb, when he wants a relationship with her, and of course he wants to keep our fwb.
I know he sounds like a slut and a dog, but he is a great guy. IN the last 3 months, i truely have felt like he is my other half, the piece of the puzzle i am missing. Our confusion in our lives is what is keeping us apart. APparantly he is attracted to her dark skin and that she is nice… my problem is my goodness do we have fun, not just sexually. Even out dating and our conversations are very deep.
He considers me his buddy, he says i am the only person friend he feels totally comforaable with. I am cool, awesome… etc… Both me and his new fling are overweight, i may be more then she is. He told me that if i lost 50 lbs i would be a hot babe. So im up for that challenge… i would LOVE to get looks from men… lol… oh and i am very sexual, more so then he is. He feels he found his sexual match. He says things like once we both get our lives figured out then maybe we can commit to each other… etc… I know he is keeping me because he really does cherish the friendship and yes the sex is amazing, of course I would be the best he has had… Anyways, we had a heart to heart last night and I admitted that now with this other woman in the pix I am afraid of being pushed to the side like im nothing.
But I was really hopeful that eventually this would turn into something more. Like a couple years down the road. But he knows he cares about me very deeply. And that I am teaching him how to be with other women, this is all great.
But I want it to be me!! I have to drive an hour or 2 to find men who are worth dating. So here I found the perfect man, someone I could be friends with, relieve my sexual energy, and hopefully grow to love.
However that is not the case, I have a good friend for sex and dating but there will never be love. Both of us do believe we are not capable of love. And honestly now that I know what I know I can get myself someone on the side too, but I really do cherish the time, dating and sex that we have, so foolishly I will be staying with him until he tires of me.
Now of course we have to have a schedule, because he cant let her know of me, as she will not be so happy with him dating other women. Which is a total other issue that me and him have talked about, but its his problem not mine. I would have been fine had it been just me and him, but yes I guess that does seem like a relationship even tho that is not how I looked at it. I need some comfort, advice, positive outlook, I wont give up the friendship or the sex… but I need help as to how to go about keeping this.
He wants me to stay, I want to stay. I have so much fun with him, its just crazy. I have done it in the past with other fwb, so im not sure why this one is so different, or maybe he is not and I just need time to adjust to what really will be….
I would like girls and guys advice, please email me jferh ymail. This is a male invention of the worst type. I unknowingingly got into a FWB relationship with a narcissist, it damaged me very badly.
I was thinking we were actually dating and I became surprised to learn it was a FWB. Then I got pregnant and he told me it was a FWB! It was confusing, we went out on dates, cuddled, etc.
The pregnancy scare was false. I would never ever recommend this BS and women who get into this knowingly are very dumb, you can waste years and years! Then disgarded at any time. Craig July 26, at 2: My problem was is that I was in love with her before we started the benefits and that was my fault.
There were no ground rules to between us. We hung out every day before the benefits and then everyday after it started. She wanted me around all the time texting me and calling me I had no free time.
When I tried to distance myself because of my feelings she got mad at me. It felt like a actual relationship which is what I really wanted and her actions to me signifies that it was a relationship even though she said it was friends with benefits from the start. I was afraid to lose her because now I was deeply in love with her. I was heart broken and started writing letters to her to clear my head. I never sent the letters then one day I did and she finally knew I was in love with her.
Now she is pissed at me and I lost one of my best friends. I tried telling her that her actions made me think it was different than fwb. She said you knew what you were getting into from the start.
Dont cuddle after or spend the night either. You will end up heart broken like me. I am still trying to figure out why she needed me there all the time too.