A recent study on data from a dating app found all women except black women were most drawn to white men, and men of all races with one notable exception prefer Asian women. The numbers in this chart from Quartz show the percentage of people who responded to a "yes" on the "Are You Interested" app. All men seemed to be more interested in people outside their race.
Black men and women get the lowest response rates to their messages. All women except black women are most drawn to white men, and men of all races with one notable exception prefer Asian women. The business site Quartz graphed these preferences using data on the percentage of "yes" responses to the "Are you interested? The data suggest some uncomfortable stories about racial preferences in online dating. Back in , the folks over at OKCupid culled through the site's data and similarly found that race played a big role in who would respond to messages, with some similar and a few different findings.
Some quick facts from the OKCupid data: Black women respond the most. White men get more replies from almost every group. White women prefer white men; Asian and Latina women prefer them "even more exclusively. What's remarkable to me is that, according to that study, most men respond to Asian women — except Asian men. For a while now, we've heard of the popularized? But why haven't we heard more about the dating preferences of Asian men? Here's the bit from Quartz that's been fodder for some discussion: All men except Asians preferred Asian women, while all except black women preferred white men.
So one of my reactions to the disproportionate popularity of Asian women is, I don't see troves of men flocking to Asian women in the offline world. I wonder to what extent there's something about finding Asian women attractive online but not in "real life. How would, say, the "mask" of screens affect our preferences? But to your point about not seeing troves of men flocking to Asian women: I dunno, I feel like I see a strong "preference" for Asian women in real life.
I put "preference" in quotes, because I think there's a very fine line that teeters between preferences and fetishization, but that could be a whole other conversation.
I actually do think there must be some of the Asian fetishization, er, "yellow fever" at play here. This just really gets in my craw, because it becomes a problem for the Asian women — Am I just loved because I'm part of an ethnic group that's assumed to be subservient, or do I have actual value as an individual, or is it both? The results of this study only perpetuate social problems for both sexes involved.
On the flip side, it's glaring how much everybody prefers white guys and doesn't respond to black men and women. And white men never have to question whether they're attractive to others because of a fetish, that's for sure. Dating as an Asian woman is sort of like this: Any other Asian women ever wonder this?
He saw that most people didn't reach out to potential suitors who were outside their race or ethnicity, and if they did, they were less likely to get a response. But the researcher noticed that people who were contacted by someone of a different race on OKCupid were more likely to initiate contact or interact with someone of that race later on. So where does that leave us, now? The connective tissue appears to be that race definitely matters when it comes to online dating. And that general idea is not necessarily something to get our backs up about, since even studies on babies indicate we might be wired to prefer our "in groups" to whatever we perceive as "out groups.
But the question that I'd like to see people get at is the difference between the online and offline worlds when it comes to these preferences. Maybe this is an app just for weirdos who love Asian chicks and don't love black women? I am annoyed for the black women who seem to be clearly getting discriminated against by these online picture-scanners. And speaking from an Asian woman point of view, I found my time in the analog dating world to be one in which men clearly favored white women or Latinas.
I am really skeptical about the odds being ever in my favor, to borrow a Hunger Games line. I think with all these new apps rolling in, we're going to learn more about relationships and preferences.
I'm just looking to get my hands on a study that delves deeply into racial preferences — so if anybody knows of one, holler at me! Yep, if this little exploration leads me to any conclusion, it's a skepticism of data from one particular dating app, since these are going to vary community by community, and I'd like to see a lot more aggregate data before getting too uncomfortable about the results. It could be that the Are You Interested dating community is just a weirdly skewed world, and now we're extrapolating all this meaning into it.