But you must use them correctly or you might end up losing your ex forever. This in-depth guide will tell you how to use text messages correctly with examples when you are trying to win your ex back.
Why text messages and how you can use them to get your ex back? If you call your ex all of a sudden, they will probably think that you want something from them. But a text message has the right amount of ambiguity. It leaves enough doubt for your ex to wonder what is going on with you and why you are contacting them.
This curiosity gives you a unique opportunity to make them attracted to you again. Would you feel attracted to someone who texted you something like this?
Hey, I still want you back. In fact, if you text your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend the wrong way, you will most likely turn them off and make them lose attraction, connection and trust. Over the years, texting has become an important tool to reconnect with your ex after a breakup.
So I decided to create the ultimate guide for the art of using text messages to get your ex back. This guide is designed to help you get your ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend back with the right text messages. Text messages that build attraction, connection and trust. This guide has five parts.
This will give you the full picture and a plan to follow. This article only focuses on texting an ex. But if you want to get your ex back and keep them permanently, you need to know about a lot of things other than texting.
Before you text your ex, you must have answers to a few very specific questions. Why are you texting your ex? Why do you want to get back together?
What has changed since the breakup that will make your new relationship if you get back together different? Because I want to get my ex back. Because I miss my ex. Because I just want to speak to them. Because I have a few questions and I want closure. Because I love my ex. This breakup is too painful and I want to get them back as soon as possible. Because our love is special and I never felt like this for someone else.
Are you sure that you are contacting your ex for the right reasons? Want to skip ahead to the next part of this article? The part where I talk about texting? Click here to scroll down to the next section of this article. You should only text your ex if you want them back. If you are texting them to get closure, you are just wasting your time because there is a good chance the answers to your questions will give rise to new questions.
It will not give you closure and it will certainly not help you get over them. If you are texting your ex boyfriend or girlfriend because you miss them, then it will just make you look needy and desperate and it will make them not want to text you.
Do you notice how all the above answers are about what you want and not your ex or your relationship? None of those reasons are good enough for your ex to even consider getting back together. Are these reasons good enough for you to want them back? Sure, you love your ex now, but you can move on and start loving someone again. After all, everyone in this world has the capability to move on from a breakup and start loving someone again.
Sure, you feel the breakup pain is too much for you right now. But studies after studies have shown that you can recover from a breakup.
With time and proper care, you heal and start feeling better, happier, and more confident. Again, all these reasons are focused on you and not really give an incentive for your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend to want to get back together. They also show that you are insecure and needy. Why would they get back together with someone who is so selfish and insecure? But, I will do anything to get back together.
How is that selfish? In reality, it takes a lot of work and a lot of time to make real changes in your behavior and habits. It takes a lot of self-awareness and practice to stop making your insecurity and neediness affect your relationship. In a lot of cases, it takes professional help to let go of the bad habits that ruin your love life and relationships. Take this quiz to help you understand why you broke up and what are your chances of getting back together.
If you just broke up, your ex has no reason to believe things will be different this time. And they will have no reason to want to try again. If you want to get them back, you will actually need to make a lot of positive changes in yourself. Again, read the 5 step plan to learn how to do that. The answer to these questions are important. You must be clear why you want to get back together and you must be sure that things will be different this time. Then and only then you will be ready to contact your ex.
Of course, you should also do no contact before you text them. You can also send them a short email or a hand written letter before you decide to text them for the first time. More about no contact, the email and the hand written letter can be found in the 5 step plan to get your ex back. Should you text your ex on their birthday or special occasions?
If you are doing no contact, then you should avoid texting your ex during birthdays or any other special occasions. Texting them on birthdays or special occasions does not accomplish anything. Moreover, they might feel like you are using the special occasion to get back in touch with them. And that will make you look desperate. If you really want to wish them on birthdays or on a special occasion, it is best to keep the text short and to the point.
For example, a birthday text should be something like this. I hope you have a great year ahead. You should not use the text to start a conversation. For example, this text is not recommended when you wish them birthday.
I have been missing you. How have you been? This will turn them off and make them not want to talk to you. In this situation, I recommend that you extend no contact for another week or two.
You can wish them on their birthday but you should still stick to the script and keep the conversation short. What if my ex wants to speak to me after I wish them? For example, Thank you. I have been doing well. Thank you for asking. All you have to do is understand the basics, follow a few templates and just go with the flow. In this section, we will talk about the basics. Make them crave your text. They should be excited to receive a text from you.
They should be looking forward to having a texting conversation with you. Make them associate texting you with something exciting. Make them want to reply to you immediately after they receive your text. Make them start initiating texting conversations with you. Make them want to take it to the next level phone calls or a date. To achieve that, you must remember the golden rule. The golden rule of texting your ex is to never send a negative text to your ex.
Here are some examples of negative texts that will probably make your ex not want to receive texts from you. You are horrible human being for doing what you did.
I am glad you are out of my life. How can you just leave your son like that. You are not fooling anybody by acting aloof.