They throw their hands up in the air, randomly choose a place like a bar , and hope for the best. This can be used for a lot of different areas of your life, not just dating. For example, if you are having trouble finding your ideal customer, you can use this model as well. Miller the definitive scientific guide to dating for men, organized into easy-to-understand language on the principles to attracting women based on decades of scientific research and Single, Shy, and Looking for Love: The chances of that are horrifically low.
As a man, you have strengths and weaknesses. Some girls are into your strengths while others are not. Therefore, you have a specific type of bait. So find out which types of fish you want, which of these fish like your bait, and go to where they hang out in abundance.
So why are you going to the latter? Of these fit women, some may only be into superficial traits, while others care more about intelligence. This is where most guys screw up. You have to go to women who care about what you have to offer. Yet most guys keep screwing this up and going to the latter.
To use a business analogy, this is just marketing Find out where specifically where your ideal prospects hang out and go there. First, be much more specific with what type of women you like.
Are they calm or assertive? What do they enjoy doing? What do they look like? All these questions will help you get more specific with the key hotspots to hang out rather than keep it a vague generality. You still need to experience dating different women to figure out what you like. Just do what you can for now. Now, use these to list out at least five top places women hang out.
Use this knowledge to tone down your list to something more reasonable. How about a local fitness bootcamp instead? Next, identify what your current strengths are right now. Are you athletic and muscular? Which of these places highlights your strengths the most?
For example, you may like athletic women, so you put Beach Volleyball rec teams on your list. You get the idea? These are the worst places to meet women for most guys. Only a small fraction of the women at these venues actually go home with anyone that night. Now, your culture and the filmed industry have tricked This makes it harder to communicate and puts women more on guard. This triggers deep primal fears of rape.
Women biologically most fear being sexually assaulted. Men biologically most fear sexual humiliation. Both are most at play here. Getting introduced to someone by a friend is still one of the main ways people find the love of their lives. In fact, test this out yourself. Ask the most attractive women you know how they met who they were dating. Most of the time, they will say they met through a friend. You get to show your attractive traits over more time. She is in a less intimidating environment.
You become familiar and trusted, which is important to a girl for social safety. Do more social events and make more friends. Get those friends to introduce you to their friends. The more you do, the more people you meet, and the more places you get invited and the more chances you have to meet someone you like.
Simply moving to a better place can increase your success and decrease your competition. Because their perceived value is a lot higher. Just making an average salary in America makes you rich to other countries. Larger cities have more events and people to meet but are more competitive because of the wealthier men. It can be skewed. Sign up and answer at least personality questions.
Change your zip code to each of the major cities, set the radius to 50 miles. Answer more questions to get a more accurate reading. It asks questions about sexual preference, ideal mate, and everything else. Picture where your ideal person goes. Think of her lifestyle, tastes, activities, and friends.
What does she do for fun? Where does she spend time? Where does she go to meet a great guy? You know what most people find out the hard way? That if you fish in a crappy lake, you will get crappy fish. If you want an ambitious, proper, busy woman, your chances are lower if you just go to a random, low-class bar.
The only thing you know about people in a bar is that they like to drink alcohol, not the best differentiating factor to look for. Many people end up finding a lot of bad fish in a bar financially poor, unproductive, rude, or crazy people. You may find amazing people at a bar too, but you can say that about any situation with a group of random people. There will probably be some good and bad people. Or make friends with a gay guy who has a lot of girl friends.
Because your theories could be way off. Facebook or Instagram kind of help but social media often gives a skewed picture.
Women often only post the highlight of their week or paint a false picture of their lives. Girls are abundant around the world. Get your life together first. Here are some great places to meet women. Amateur athletic events with a social component.