There are a lot of different ways to meet new women. Every time you leave the house is an opportunity to meet someone new and I will cover THAT in detail in another article but for now Sean has a great newbies guide to picking up girls.
Soo…Ever had a buddy want to set you up with someone? I bet you either have — or will have — had someone attempt this well-meant attempt at helping you out. You have to know how to handle all of the social dynamics of this delicate, exciting situation. One of my favorite ways to meet women is through friends, and my social groups.
When done properly, you have the chance to impress — and be impressed by — lots of quality women. But be warned my starry-eyed adventurer — there are many ways this can go totally wrong when you let your well-meaning friends set you up. Worst set-up scenario ever? This is especially disastrous. Your buddy and his girlfriend, for example, are going to set you up.
Either way, this sounds like a good deal on the surface. How we think it will be: Let me break it all down for you. First and foremost — what is the mindset of someone who is setting you up, anyway? Or what about that girl we know who never seems to have a boyfriend. So keep this in mind: Either way, this is not good.
Do you ever think to help out a buddy, with a date for example, who seems to be doing great with women? Our fun, exciting and sexy friends rarely elicit our pity.
Of course it could be YOU they feel needs some help — how is this going to make you look to the girl they have in mind for you? Poor guy never gets any dates. Do us a favor and just go out with him, would you? Not as attractive an offer if you look at it this way, now is it? Shoot me in the head. If you have — then you know.
The established couple loooooves to see their matchmaking skills in effect. They are so proud of themselves. The worst part is, they are constantly watching your every move — everything you say. It sucks the best part of any first date right into a vast vortex of hell somewhere under New Jersey. And if you really are interested in this girl, you have no wiggle room whatsoever to really work your magic and go for it. How is this date going to end?
Then what do you do? Back to square one: There you are, enjoying your life — such as it is — coming home from the gym, listening to sports radio and just trying to get through the god damned day. And the phone rings. Boy, do they have a girl for you! Do you want to meet someone new right now? Well — do you? But unless you are locked-down and unavailable and why would they have called you if you were? Now is a good time. This is a great move for a couple reasons, not the least of which is I know it works great.
And the best part of all is you can use one of the basic skills of dating — the priming date. The priming date is something I go into great detail explaining here. Dinner dates, double-dates, movie-dates — all of the so-called traditional first date stuff is really NOT what you want to do.
But in general, you can call this girl — have her meet you for coffee on a Sunday afternoon for 20 or 30 minutes and see if you two even like each other. Without spending a lot of time or money. And all without the watchful eyes of your friends, or worse yet — the couple. And the best part of all is you get to keep your friends.
If you think about it — that should come first. Accepting and going on the blind date or the set-up date is putting the cart before the horse. So while there is nothing wrong with your friends and your couple friends as a source for meeting new women — you have to quickly take control of the situation and not get headed down a road of destruction. Think of it as just another way to meet women. You would take the lead meeting someone at the library, on OK Cupid , or at a bar.
And now you know how to use that source when they come to you with the set-up. Be fun on the phone. Apparently you are the perfect woman for me — so of course I was intrigued…haha. Sunday afternoon, for example. For a half hour. You can do that. She can do that. Even if you two hate each other from hello — it still beats the endless ride into the abyss you would be taking by accepting a blind date or that device of Satan himself: Share in the comments! Okay — good set up stories too.