Texting etiquette, decoding subtle subtexts in your conversations, or even what outfit to wear out on a date can cause anyone to stress out about the whole dating scene. I've had friends who have temporarily deleted dating apps to give themselves a break from the sometimes confusing and frustrating world of online dating. And what about when you finally meet? That's an entirely different story with its own set of rules and social cues. I spoke to Jonathan Bennett , counselor, dating expert, and life coach to help you decode male body language.
If you're out there dating and having a difficult time reading the signals, here are some things to look for in a guy's body language to see if he's interested in you. Posture Shutterstock You may not think about this at first, but how a man's posture is around you could indicate whether or not he's interested in you. Bennett said when you're spending time with a date, observe his posture. For example, "is he consistently leaning towards you when you talk?
If he does, it's an indication he's interested in you and what you have to say," he said. Just think about how you behave when you're focused on something interesting. If you're into it, you're likely sitting in attention. His eyes Shutterstock They say the eyes are the windows to the soul, and maybe they're right. To show interest, Bennett said that men are likely throw out subtle, non-sexual touching if they're into you.
He also said that if a man totally keeps his hands to himself, he probably doesn't find you attractive. Do consider, however, that if someone refrains from physical contact, they could also just be respecting your space, which is not a bad thing, and doesn't necessarily mean that they aren't interested in you at all.
Proximity Shutterstock Have you ever felt the urge to physically be nearer to someone you're interested in romantically? That desire to get closer to someone you're interested in is true for men as well. Smiling Shutterstock Another way to tell if he's interested that seems like a no brainer is in his facial expression — particularly in his smile. How he sits next to you Shutterstock A more subtle clue to look for if you're trying to read a man's body language is to take note of how he sits when he's next to you — particularly how he crosses his legs.
According to him, if a man is interested in a potential partner, they're going to turn their attention to you, figuratively and literally. Holding hands Shutterstock When a man is interested in you, one clear sign that usually doesn't need a lot of reading into is whether or not he holds your hand. Naturally, when someone wants to connect with you, it's likely because they're interested.
From my personal experience, when I was newly seeing my current boyfriend, one of my earlier clues about whether or not he was interested in me was how he held my hand when he was walking me home one night after a date. Not only was it a sweet gesture, it was also one that told me that was definitely interested. Red flags Shutterstock Body language doesn't just tell you all the ways he could be interested in you. There are also ways to tell if you should maybe keep your distance.
If a man shows signs of "aggressive or invasive body language," Bennet said that this is a red flag that "you're probably dealing with a creep. If this continues throughout the night, you might want to take precautions and call a friend, or have the someone at the restaurant or bar call you a cab if you feel like slipping out inconspicuously is the safest way to go.
Whatever you do, if your gut is telling you that something about someone you're seeing doesn't feel quite right, trust your instinct.
Dating should be fun Shutterstock If you're playing the field and dating right now, try not to focus too much on whether or not someone's into you or not. While that matters to some degree, you should also keep in mind that dating and getting to know new people should be fun, too! Even if a date doesn't turn into a long-term relationship, that doesn't mean that you can't enjoy that person's company while you're going out with them. And who knows, they may not become your boyfriend, but they could become a friend — you never know!