The lure of a love that lasts forever is enough to drive anyone insane. This type of crazy comes with a diagnosis that often goes unnoticed until your heart is going for broke. Terms like psycho, narcissist, and OCD get thrown around.
When going to school to get my Masters in counseling I was warned by my teachers that when reading the DSM—the bible of mental health disorders—I would feel crazy because it talks about behaviors we all display at one point or another.
Maybe you have been diagnosed with a mood disorder or are dating someone that should be diagnosed. Maybe you are dating crazy. The first is mood disorders such as depression , anxiety, or PTSD. The second are personality disorders such as borderline, narcissistic, sociopathic, and obsessive-compulsive. In fact, like often attracts like or its counterpart.
For instance, unhealthy relationships are often build on the primal exchanges of a narcissist and a codependent. Again, there is a spectrum of functional on one side and dysfunctional on the other.
Personality disorders are often fixed coping mechanisms that are both biologically and environmentally crystalized. This list is elementary and simplified in nature and is not meant to be used as a diagnostic tool. It is meant to be used to give a greater description to events you may be experiencing in your relationship.
Mood Disorders Bi-Polar There are two ends of the spectrum with this disorder. The first is mania and the second is depression. The mental health field is still running studies on both polls and the pharmacology field continues to refine its medicines to treat this disorder.
Venues like festivals, raves, and other places that invite impulsive behavior are where the disordered can congregate and not be detected. Robin Williams was a famous example of mania. He was able to channel it into humor. On the flip side is depression. When in relationship with a depressive individual life can feel infuriating and frustrating.
Therefore, anger—a mobilizing emotion—is a survival response that gets elicited in the partner who is not disordered. A few common reactions to being with a depressive person is to flight, fight, or freeze.
The most common treatment for bi-polar disorder is medication and talk therapy. There are many reasons that inspire falling in love with someone with this disorder.
Suffice to say this is a complicated disorder that has both emotional and physical ramifications. When in relationship with someone with this disorder it can feel like being a border guard always on patrol or high alert. It takes a high caliber of self-control to regulate situations. In fact, it can be exhausting to be with someone with PTSD because they keep odd and sporadic sleep schedules.
Further they can have a hair-trigger temper or act impulsively when making decisions. In fact, emotional expression can be difficult for a person with PTSD and sometimes they can err on the side of being cold and stoic.
Love and understanding what treatment options are available are important in the course of healing. Personality Disorders Borderline This disorder is anything but a hit 80s song from Madonna.
There are many features of this disorder including, but not limited to, a dominating fear of abandonment, a perpetual sense of emptiness, a continued sense of guilt that the disordered party is evil, and sometimes multiple suicidal attempts or self-mutilation. The dominant feeling when dating a BPD borderline personality disorder is a sense of never being able to win.
No matter what you do to please them or scold them, your efforts are either never enough or entirely too much. Further, there are ridged rules, sometimes affairs , and outlandish accusations. The person with BPD is trapped between feeling defended and rageful and defeated and abandon. Narcissistic By now most of us know a part of the Greek myth of Narcissist who fell in love with his own reflection. It is a wild ride that will have very little to do with you.
There is no telling them what to do, so the best option is to leave as peacefully as possible. The best course of action to take if you think you are dating someone with a mental health disorder MHD or you are suffering from symptoms of a MHD is to see a professional.
In the world of dating the terms crazy, needy, psycho and whack-job get thrown around. In reality, we are all trying to survive in this world the best we know how. Do not go to WebMD to look up these disorders. Again, find a professional who fits your lifestyle, your budget and your beliefs and get help.