Tweet Have you ever met a girl and you were both clearly interested in seeing each other again, but for some reason you never got her out on the first date? She gave you her number, you started texting each other, but then something weird happened… She started taking longer to reply. Her replies got shorter, and eventually… she faded away and stopped replying altogether. So what the hell happened? I know, I know… texting is like a big mystery for a lot of us guys.
When you learn the rules of the game, you can play to win. You still have to capture her attention and get her out on a date. ALL those people want her attention… just like you do, so how are you going to stand out in that sea of noise?
So learning how to text is no longer optional. The best way to get started is to learn… The Foundation: The first thing you need to know is that learning how to text a girl is not like learning math. Texting is more like learning how to speak another language, or play an instrument, or learning a sport. She only has so much available attention, and everyone wants a piece of it. What does that mean for you? Principle 2 — Make her feel something — Women make decisions about who to give their attention to based on how to they feel in the moment.
It makes sense to heat the pipe up first so it bends easily, right? Well the same thing applies to her emotions and decision making process. Principle 4 — Always be closing — After you meet her, you should be leading the interaction forward toward some kind of relationship either romantic or just sexual.
Keep in mind that you need to get her out on a real date and take the steps toward beginning a relationship and getting physical together. Principle 5 — Master the High-Status Filter — Guys often lose their chances with a woman because they put too much importance and pressure on that one girl.
This will help remind you that you need to get her out on a date, not waste time becoming her texting buddy. Would you go anywhere? But would you waste gas, waste time, and put stress on the engine? You already put the effort in of getting her interested in you and getting her number… but if you start making these mistakes and she loses interest and stops replying , then it was all for nothing.
Before long, she loses interest, starts replying less and less, and then just stops replying altogether. Then you both get busy. The longer you wait to ask her out, she more chance she has to forget about you. She wants a guy who is going to step up and ask her out. Just go for it! Mistake 3 — Not having a plan before you text her — Lots of guys will fire off a boring text without giving it much thought. Sequence solves this mystery for you.
She still has good feelings about meeting you, and she gave you her number so she could see you again. Just go straight for the close by inviting her out on a date. Remember, she wants to meet up. Now just make it easy for her to do that by offering the invitation. Then we shift down to the second level of the C.
Just ask her a simple question that she can answer without putting much thought into it. Then when she does, you immediately move back up to stage 1 which is going for the close.
Which is better… dark chocolate or milk chocolate? If you had just texted her out of the blue and asked her to go on the date after she had already ignored your previous messages , she probably would not have responded. She might be a flake, or she might just have been busy and forgot to reply. Sequence with every girl.
If you were funny, then now is the time to send her something funny, like a funny GIF or meme. Just go to images. Maybe you two connected over your love of ethnic food, so you send her a text saying: Do you like to cook? I love Indian food! I actually know an amazing place to get Indian street food.
How about we go together sometime this week? Now if you notice in the first text, I sent a combination of stage 3 and stage 2. First, I reminded her of what we connected over when we first met ethnic food. Then I also included a simple question she could respond to without thinking Do you like to cook? Once she responded, then I went for the close. You can either use stage 3 or stage 2 or both like I did in my example above with the Indian food.
As soon as she responds, you call her while her phone is already in her hand. Then call her as soon as you send that text. Main points to remember about the C. She wants to meet up with you. Sequence is about making it easier for her to say yes in a smooth and natural way.
She wants things to feel natural and effortless. One of the greatest feelings as a man is creating a little magic for her to experience. Sequence with her or any other techniques for that matter. Just let her enjoy how easy it is to connect with you. And by the way, moving on would also be a win for you. What do you do? How long have you lived here? What are you studying in college? Not texting with enough girls. Girls like it when you step up and lead.
Being too eager and too excited. Be cool, hang back, be authentic, and keep the interaction moving forward so you two can actually start dating. Responding right away all the time. Sending sexual texts and pictures sexting. Believe it or not, girls post screenshots of that stuff on their Facebook and Instagram for all their friends to see. The Internet is written in pen, not pencil. Not caring about spelling.
Girls always complain about this. In Summary I hope you enjoyed this post. It contains everything you need to know in terms of overall strategy for texting girls. Now you just need to practice. Remember, learning how to text girls is like learning to play an instrument or a sport. The good news is that you have a proven strategy laid out here before you. You get bad results.
This post is designed to get you practicing the right stuff. The best thing for you to do now is to put this stuff to work right away. Look through your contacts and initial some C. Bookmark this post and refer back to it often. Also, if you got value from this post, then be sure to share this with your friends who also want to learn more about women. I prepared a short video for you see below that teaches you seven of my best text messages.
I went ahead and created a special video for you which gives you my top seven texts that get girls to reply to you FAST! The same night sex text. Send this to her when you want her to come over to spend time with you and feel good about doing it. Use this when a girl has to cancel plans with you, but it seems like she still wants to see you.
This is an easy way to get her feeling more eager and excited to meet up with you. I love this one. This will make her feel really happy to be dating you she might even brag about your text to her friends.
The friend zone destroyer text. The rapid reply text. The instant date text.