Christian Bateman Wealthy, arrogant and materialistic. I merge and acquire. There have been a number of excellent articles written here about girls who suffer from personality disorders like BPD. So this article is for the guys out there whose masochistic tendencies run deep and are ready for a world of pain. Dating borderline women is like playing the game of thrones with one exception: When you play this game you either lose… or you die.
Borderline girls typically end up with two types of men: You need to be somewhere in the middle. The way I play it is to always come from the heart, no matter how aggravated I get. Yeah, but the sex is incredible So whenever you feel the rage building up inside, realize that you would have most likely turned out the same way had you also been abused by your caretakers. Who she is today is a result of her shitty childhood and this standpoint will make it easier to have concern for her well-being, regardless of the crap you she puts you through.
Unfortunately, she equates romantic love with drama and pain and will do her best to create this for herself, with or without your help. Because of space constraints, this article will only cover what to do when things are on an upswing. Apply standard game tactics Give them lots of fun, good feelings, and a range of emotions. Be dominant, limit your availability, be a bit difficult, etc. The problem most guys run into is that these behaviors are easy to perform in the initial stages of dating but, once a guy gets attached, he lets his good habits fall to the wayside.
Go easy with the affection Be careful with dishing out too much affection hugs, hand-holding, etc. In other words, let the cat crawl into your lap before you start petting it. Better to wait for her to be affectionate on her own time. Some will readily submit to you inside and outside the bedroom and others will refuse to let you take the lead initially. On one hand, most will be deeply offended you suggested such a thing and on the other, therapy is rarely effective for borderlines.
In the meantime, please realize that life is far too short to waste time on damaged women who refuse to seek out help for themselves.