An engineer started dating a doctor 8 years ago and this what he had to say. No threat or ego issues: Ever saw your friends getting jealous of their spouses who are in the same line of work, and have become more successful? Here, I know that eventually, doctors tend to earn more, and hence am fully prepared for it mentally. Further, we both get equal opportunities to appear more intelligent in front of each other.
She tells me about the curious cases that come to her, I tell her about the new marketing campaign I am working on. We exchange work talk, not really expecting expert opinions, but interesting ones nevertheless.
I know I can count on a dentist, a paediatrician, a surgeon and many others whenever I need them because of her. She knows who to call if her computer crashes or she needs life hacks or she needs to find good pubs around! Also, typically medical students are too engrossed in their studies to really get to know outside life, so my circle of friends prove to be a good break from that for her. Minimum level of intelligence expected: Doctors are anyway intelligent.
Intelligent enough not to fall in love with idiots. Hence, both parties get the benefit of no-stupidity-no-frustrati on factor. In such cases in whatever you speak or breathe, please tread carefully, very carefully.
Fact is, doctors had to study more and grill themselves for longer hours doing harder work than any engineer will ever do. This might lead them to think that doctors are better than engineers or anyone else. Again, a delicate topic to stir up. You might end up feeling a bit ignored in case your family members get more interested in discussing their minute health issues to get free consultation than pampering you like you were used to. I, however, enjoy the peace.
Often when you will hold her hand, she will suddenly observe some weirdness in the bone structure of your hand and start cautioning you against medical conditions you have never heard that affect body parts you never knew existed. Doctors are more likely to marry other doctors According to Dan Kopf, staff writer at Pricenomics , some professions see a large number of marriages happening from within the profession while others see most marriages happening outside the profession.
For example, lawyers and farmers are most likely to marry people in the same profession whereas miners will most likely marry someone out of their profession. Guess where doctors fall? Yes, there is a high probability that doctors will end up marrying another doctor. According to Dan Kpof, professions with more balanced gender ratios are more likely to have more marriages happening within the profession. With more and more female medical students enrolling in Indian universities, we should see a similar trend in India.
Doctors have a hectic schedule and crazy workloads. A group of physicians analysed census data in the US to compare the divorce rates among doctors when compared to that of other professionals.
Here is a brief summary of their finding. Females traditionally bear more of the household and child-rearing responsibilities on average, and female physicians, if they have to do both that and maintain a job as a physician, that could lead to a lot of stress and lead to higher rates of divorce. In summary, marrying a doctor is not an easy decision.
But there are some broad requirements that seem to be relevant irrespective of who you end up marrying — a sense of shared goals and vision for the future, defining and communicating your expectations, alignment of goals and priorities, and chemistry.
Divorce rates among doctors Anupam B Jena from Harvard Medical school conducted a study on the divorce rates among physicians in the US. The purpose of the study was to find out if the stressful, unpredictable lifestyle of doctors caused more divorces and relationship breakdowns compared to other professions in the medical sector.
The results of the study are surprising. The study found that doctors had the lowest divorce rates when compared to nurses, healthcare executives and lawyers! The same study also found that woman doctors are more likely to be divorced compared to male doctors.
The additional responsibility for managing the household and the children might be the contributing factors for this trend. John Hopkins University conducted a long-term study way back in and concluded that Psychiatrists and Surgeons had higher divorce rates compared to that of the Pediatricians and Internists.
In India, there is on data available for divorce rates among doctors. In general doctors in India marry someone from the same profession as they believe only a doctor spouse can understand the pulls, pressures and stress associated with the medical profession.
We suspect divorce rates among doctors in India is not very different from that of the rest of the population. Click here to read about what medical students and doctors have to say about their preference for marrying someone from the same profession.
We created this handy checklist for you in case you have already decided on marrying a doctor. Your spouse will go missing often: Just assume that your doctor spouse will not be around for dinner or that wedding reception you knew about 10 days ago. Always start the day with low expectations and who knows you may be positively surprised. Develop lots of empathy but…: Putting yourself in their shoes and understanding the fact that they are always behind both at work and at home will make you appreciate them.
Keep your family and friends close: Being married to a doctor without a support network to fall back on will be tough on you. Having family and friends around you or close by will make a huge difference when you have to face life in the absence of your spouse. This may sound ironic, but doctors are not very good at keeping a watch on their own health!
This responsibility of making sure your doctor spouse remains healthy is probably on you. Find a different doctor for you family: Not all doctors are rich: Read this article first. Subscribe to our blog Get thought-provoking updates on marriage, love and culture. Leave this field empty if you're human: