Hidden among a sea of handsome, intelligent and successful men are Diary of a Wimpy Kid boys that cannot make a move without their mama. On the outside, they look like every other man. Broad shoulders, receding hairlines, and the marks of wisdom and maturity. But on the inside, they are cowardly little poodles that cannot withstand or pull free from the stranglehold that is their mother.
First, look for the signs. This may take a bit of investigation at first. Look for signs that he is calling his mother when he is not with you. Actually calling his mother is a good sign. Another tell tale sign is the way his house looks. Might be that he spends his weeknights being tended to by mama, evident by creases in his jeans that he has never sent off to the dry cleaners.
Look in his freezer as well. Tupperware containers filled with meals labeled by the day of the week could mean something beside OCD. As time goes on though you will realize that the obsession becomes a little weird.
There is nothing wrong with a man loving his mom, even making sure that she is always okay. You will realize that the closer YOU get to your man, the closer his mama pulls and her main goal is to get you out of the picture.
This means that she will comment about your jeans being too tight, the size of your boobs, the authenticity of your cooking and will make comments to undermine you every chance she gets.
Her hopes are that she can plant enough seeds of in his head to make him doubt you, even realize that despite your incredibleness…. Sure, it might be that he has commitment issues or other serious derailments with women. This is not to intimidate you. Many women who end up marrying these men do just fine.
However, your marriage will be a rough road ahead where you will be forced alone to deal with your mother in law setting boundaries and making rules that will constantly be tried. And you do it well! Eventually, you will be so filled with a mixture of jealousy, resentment, and content that your sex life suffers too. You may even try withholding sex as punishment, which only will end up making the mama right in the end.
The raw truth is that there is nothing wrong with a man who loves his mother and treats her and all women with respect. In fact, that is a bonus. There is also nothing wrong with a mother loving her son.
In the long term, your relationship WILL have trouble. You may even notice that early in the relationship. Even if you do — they might be met with resentment. Nobody wants to be the division factor between someone they are dating. And supposedly, the most dangerous place to stand is between a mother and a child. Tenfold if it is a mother and a son! Your best bet is to run far far away. Right now, it may not be a problem and you may even fantasize that once you become his wife, and wear his ring or bear his children the tides will change in your direction.
Sadly, you will more than likely experience a deathly drought before this happens. If you can withstand the thirst and the man is worth it — forge ahead.