Aug 21, , Pearl Dalal, 27, taps her feet to the music, even dances when asked. But midway through the evening, she decides to leave. It turned out that he was a relative, and then, he proposed! I felt so insulted by his audacity. She has been busy processing the matrimony forms filled by over Parsi boys and girls. On their Facebook page, the number is well over This mismatch was part of the problem discussed by Harvard graduate, Dinyar Patel, 28, at a talk he gave in the city recently, titled, Understanding Parsi Population Decline in India: They must accept that non-marriage is contributing to our decline, too.
Patel may mean well but many community members find his understanding of the problem rather limited. You push the girls into a corner, and then complain that many choose to remain single? They were being harassed just for doing the Navjote on children of Parsi women married to non-Parsis, and solemnising a marriage between a Parsi woman and a non-Parsi man.
Not all have the courage to sever ties and storm out. Today, many choose the easy life in Parsi baugs, comfortably paying the meager Rs rent, and eventually inheriting it from their parents. Which brings us back to the same issue — how can we expect our girls to choose them as partners? But he opens up when promised anonymity.
Cyrus K, 38, tries to pacify Batliwala. But even when we approach girls in our age group, it is a humiliating experience. The year-old assistant manager at Jet Air Tours is a regular at the matrimony meets. Goolrookh Gupta, 45, says she was engaged to a Parsi boy, but they were not compatible, and she married a Punjabi later.