November 9, at And it does get harder and harder each day. But yet I love him so much to let him go. I have never asked him to leave his wife. But I sure wish he would. I know one one day it will end. That will be one of the most sadest days for me: S B December 17, at 4: His wife knows about me and just wants him to end it with me,but she will never leave him. And he will never leave her because of their kids, they are business partners and because of their religion.
Really sucks SH December 26, at 8: Patty December 30, at 5: Neither one of us has ever felt this way before but I think I had an ephiphany today! He knows we will not sleep together until then. But now I feel our relationship is at an impasse. Do I want to live with all that? I think I need to see it and believe it for what it is. Any positive feedback would be much appreciated.
Sabrina March 31, at 7: At first month he keep telling me he single, but of course I doubted because he never bring me to his place, he was so controlling to the point that pisses me off. So one time I told asked him what do he wants to me aside from what we have at that moment, and there he confessed that he was married to an Indian woman who recently gave birth to their first child, my doubts had been solved!
But he went and so we continued seeing each, we went to KL to one of his condo unit there, it was very new, so feels like we two were decorating the place,. I was so innocent, and he confused me a lot, so one time on our 3rd month, I decided not to contact him to think for myself, and what was happening to him, why is he so jealous and almost want me to move as he like.
It was so hard for me to understand his action. So the 2 days not responding his message I thought I might get be a better thinking, I know I my heart I started to love him and accept his ways,. But along that days he met up my acquiantance friends asking about me, I did not know what they said to him he was very angry. And one of them told me to tell him the story she made up for me.
To my innocent I followed what she said, I did not know that they have planned to get his attention to their friend who could get his interest- petite type.
So things was so different when I traveled back home he dated one of my acquiantance friend. February we met up in KL, he was still the same, checking my phones, my contacts. He even sent messages to some of my friends to check if they are my boyfriends. I was curious also, so in the morning he was taking shower, I check his phone there was one miscall and 1 message received, I did not open.
After breakfast we went to shop tables and decors for his new condo unit, I asked him if I could also see his phone, at first he was reluctant but I said, you had my phone all the time you want it. So he gave it to me for all he know his call logs are empty as well as his outbox and inbox,.
I told him I saw a miscall and a message while he was at the shower but I respected him and did not open his phone. He was shocked and started to. Make up stories saying that woman is and old girlfriend from Indonesia who worked as a housemaid whom he was helping financially because the father died last year and all.
For all I know it was my friend and some acquaintance told me about him and that woman. I hope the two of them have a bad bad karma on their way. We hav neva had ups nd downs,neva fought or wronged eachada in anyway. The thing is it hurts dat he cnt wake next to me in the morning and dat wateve we hav cnt grow. He loves me that I know nd I dnt doubt it! He spends more time with me than he does with his wife,cols me everynight nd often sleeps ova he wud do everythng to b wth me… Wht hurts is dat he has kids, a lovely gal nd a handsum 2year old son.
I dd go out wth a guy but ended it bcos I cud not love de guy nd felt it was not fair on him. One reason was my MM said my name while he was having sex wth his wife nd dat also happened to me wth de ada guy I went out with.
Need help to deal with this. Sarah August 14, at 5: Honestly, it has started to hurt so bad, fact that i cant call him anytime i want to, cant be with him whenever i feel like being with him. Of course we never talk about his wife, we do talk about the kids, also have a daughter, and they are crazy about each other not her biological father. Its really draining me out!! I just love him so much it hurts!
And i refused, stated the facts, that he seemed to ignore. All i know is that I am madly in love with him and he contributes a lot in my happiness. Please tell me how to go about doing this? Allie September 2, at 2: I fell for my co worker but he was in a 5 year relationship with his girlfriend. He fell in love me and he left his girlfriend soon after he found out I felt the same as he did. I left for school across the country so we tried the long distance thing but it eventually fell through and his over obsessed ex stole him back and eventually got him to marry her all while I was away.
I came back after I finished up school and I got my old job back. Dazed and Confused September 4, at 2: I did find him mildly attractive and over time as we were working in the same industry, we became closer as we had to be in contact with each other on an almost daily basis.
We also attended many of the same industry functions and we never acted on the attraction that became stronger and stronger as time went on. We flirted quite a bit, but there was nothing more than that. He was back at home at that stage and I ignored him, but have carried that comment with me for years.
And I kissed him back. Time went on, and we met up occasionally still through industry functions and it was hard to fight that feeling. It was then now over 2 years ago that he told me in her presence that he loved me.
I admitted I felt something similar and then literally ran away. He tells me even today that my actions hurt him even then and he never wants me to run away from him again. He has two children, both in high school and is married, of course but claims that his feelings for his wife and the marriage are non existent. He has also said that he wants us to be an exclusive relationship — outside of his marriage.
We steal every spare moment we can to be together. Sonia September 9, at 6: We have two kids together I met him at my work when I first started working there we met and then we start hanging out like going to lunch, movies and dinners he was so charming nice and very out going guy then we start liking each other we got so comfortable around each other he ended up liking me a lot he told me he never had this feelings before with a women like me.
And just hang up on her. Dating a married man was the biggest mistakes Ronnie September 30, at 3: The thing is, he had me quit my job of ten years, move to NY with him in a beautiful home and has given me all the accommodations I need to start my own business, which has been my dream. My question is should I stick it out to get what I want from him and move on, just like he used me, or should I hold onto my morality and run away as fast as I can?
He also happens to be my employer. Lilo October 16, at 4: Allowed all the indulgence to happen and felt so perfect. Told him then I was in love. Told him to run. Only time I have seen him in 5 weeks. He runs the home, the wife has boyfriend, and job and is gone. But he loves her…. I feel an urge to continue despite my best intuition, some belief that he will provide for me in the future and father my children.
I love him, but know that love would be best to leave him alone…. Our interests are similar and our intellectual conversations so grandoise that I am pleased. But I want him here with me and have a very hard time sharing him. I need a night, weekend, a touch, but understand that is too much. Logic, analytics, and reason have partially left, and hope, dreams, and tingling have taken over. I forgive him, myself, and the wife who called me yelling the first night, when a stranger from home town let her know.
He means more to me than her, so i continued. Use him for what you need and move on, hopefully with your heart in tact. I donot know until now how stupid, naive i was… he told me all lies. He does not love his wife blah blah.. Finally i found he loves his wife more than anything. He is with me only for sex..