Dating is more like a game, no matter how much we glorify it with books, songs, and films. In the end, the goal is to win and take everything. Men have often complained of the opposite sex of playing hard to get.
Men however, were given the enormous task of wooing and pursuing, not to mention the competition from other guys. Remember, relationships are not like your regular Hollywood summer chick flick where the guy impresses and wins the girl immediately. Women, who are in advantage of choosing from a list of candidates, have the leisure to put you through their little mind games and tests to see if you deserve her company.
Finding the potential partner works in the same way. Therefore, there is a need to be sure at the very beginning. Playing hard to get is one way for women to determine if their potential partner would be up to the task. You meet a girl in a jazz bar. You muster up your courage, fix your jacket and throw in that awesome one-line conversation starter.
From a few minutes of small talk, you learned that she works 10 hours a day, plus after-shift classes in art school. Numbers are exchanged and hopes soar high. Remember, in this day and age, women can also be career-oriented like men. There is no better ego drug than the experience of being pursued, be it a girl or a guy. Man up, pick up the phone, and talk to her. It could be as simple as making her laugh, showing her interesting stuff online, and suggesting good movies that falls in her area of interest.
The trick is to express genuine interest in her life. This will make her feel that, even if she just met you a few days ago, life is a wee more cheerful with you in it. Playing hard to get can be in different levels.
It can range from the demure, daughter-of-a-pastor kind of hard to get to the straight bitchy, dismissive, and abrasive type. In this picture, you need to be confident and flexible. Take note of the little things such as body language, posture and mannerisms, anything you could use to your advantage. However, learn to gauge your confidence level and still be true to yourself. Take Will Smith in Hitch, for example. Remember, smooth and steady. Make her miss you a little, now and then.
So maybe for a few weeks, you give her that good score of attention: Then all of a sudden you pull out the attention little by little. You can miss the hangouts, deliberately skip a call or two, then watch her go through dating withdrawal symptoms. But as mentioned in 1, the point is to make her realize that her life is better with you in it.
However, timing is everything. Choose a good time to ask her and take care not to spoil the mood. Probably after a good concert or dinner, somewhere secluded and intimate, when you two have run out of things to say. Women appreciate honestly and sincerity the most.
It all falls on careful observation and creating good experiences between two people. Remember, the dating period is where you test your waters, the plot summary of the whole movie that is your would-be relationship. It is where first impressions are confirmed or dispelled. The rest is up to you. Liked what you just read?