Answered 2d ago My husband and I had a very happy married life up until now or so I assumed. We were married from 5 years. He was so kind and patient with me in all respects. We gave each other space to do our own little things, but when we were together, I was full of bliss because I couldn't have asked for a better spouse.
He was the epitome of a caring husband who took our entire burden on himself. He even cared for his parents and my parents alike. I was also equally welcoming of his family, treating them like my own. Once when we returned from a family trip, my husband was fully dispirited, which alarmed me. I let it go since I thought it was the fatigue from the trip and the thought of going back to work in a couple of days. One night, when we were about to go to sleep, he told me in a subdued voice that he has been having an affair since the past two months.
I was dumbstruck for a few minutes, almost numb. I simply said to him that it is fine if it has happened, we cannot do anything now. I was very disturbed the following day. He gave me the phone number of the woman's husband and asked me to talk to him. I was shivering when I called him; my heart almost sank when I finished talking. The affair was mostly online, which also included phone calls. She used to work in his office years ago when he was a bachelor.
The affair went on for almost 5 years and there were a lot of details in the email exchanges, which I received from her husband. My husband tried to cover up the affair patching it up with one lie after another. The emails told the entire truth, all that transpired between them in the past few years. I felt like I was stabbed in the back.
This was something which happens to celebrities and we read in the papers as scandals, it sure cannot be happening to me, a simpleton. I was totally demoralized. I did not know who my husband was after all. Was I so naive that I could not understand my husband was unhappy in the marriage that he had to go find someone else? All the memories of the last 5 years were right in front of me, and metaphorically speaking, his partner was with us on all the trips we went, whatever we did and even in our bedroom.
He had shared all our little secrets with her, which I had closely guarded and even made fun of me around her. It has been a Year since I found this out and I am still writhing in pain as I write this. I keep wondering why this happened to me, my past karma or maybe as a reaction to all my collective anger in this lifetime.
My husband is equally embarrassed and suffering in silence. He has been introspecting as to why this happened to him. Obviously, the abuse that he suffered as a kid set the perfect stage for this. The gun was loaded even before marriage and when we entered into wedlock, he expected a perfect partner and a perfect marriage, which was not to be. It was just like any other marriage where we would have our share of fights.
I took it in my stride and was happy with what I had. The trigger went off when his friend from olden days contacted him and she wanted to have some fun too.
We seperated and i could not forget. I feel like i should sleep with a guy , just for the sake of getting back at him, and anyway he is out of my life,Its a struggle for woman, when some of the physical needs are not met for a year or more.
And i do not have the courage to get married , so i would better settle for a FWB kind of relationship. A woman cannot ask this very openly from a guy , and im going through a different kind of suffering without emotional and physical intimacy. Thats when i realized that i have taken life seriously and there are enough guys around , to please a woman..
I always used to look for well travelled n open minded guys bcoz they are non pushy, safe.. I hope this will help woman, who are very hesitant ,to read my story , nd see how it worked.
Im also a very shy woman, but took safe steps. For my job had to travel to Bangalore. Stayed at a woman's hostel. It was work, work , work. Wake up , take bath, go to office, come back to hostel and sleep. But then, i liked the newly found independence. I was sensually struggling to understand , mostly i used to massturbate and by some means i got a vibrator.
One day , i noticed a online forum in google , that had a ad with a overseas nbr and he is travelling, said it was a indian origin guy who is into soft activities like foreplay, fingering , breast sucking etc. Given my independence, i wanted to try , met him for a coffee at his work location, headed straight to his place of stay.
He was really helping me explore my sensuality. He really ensured that he limited himself to fingering and going down on me, and using a vibrator. I decided to work from my chennai office , and was accomodated.
I found a nbr , again it was a indian guy but overseas traveller who posted. I thought how about some of the kinky ways a woman would like to. I kind of liked the idea of a pussy slave. Usually i get that during my lunch breaks , as he stayed close to my office. Now, i moved away and i would not contact with the trusted friends, as im settled.
As the travellers , didnt stay permanently , it was a peace of mind for me to pursue this. Also , sadly I had met few local guys in tinder , who were very desperate and kind of stalked me. But my good experience with the traveller kind of people really helped.