Your level of correct information determines the level of your relationship. From God Himself and Wise counsels from trusted mentors! Thus, we have established two key principles that are necessary for success in marriage relationship: A Solid Plan ii.
But even careful, well-laid plans will fail if they are based on faulty information. That is why it is important to have accurate information before we start. It is much easier and far better to avoid mistakes at the beginning than to try to correct them in mid-stream.
Myths are ideas generally held to be true but has only be founded on faulty information or false notions. Myths that need to be corrected: There are no Scriptural grounds for this idea. Smashing this myth leads to two important conclusions: This also is not true. But we understand that God created all of us with the freedom to choose and never violates that freedom. Moreover, if God chooses for you, you will make God responsible for the success or failure of that relationship.
Few thoughts other principles: God may bring a potential mate across your path, but he does not choose that person for you. The key to finding the right mate is first to identify the qualities and character that we will hold as our standards without compromise, and then evaluate the potential candidates we meet according to those standards. Is He a Christian? The principle is this: You must clearly see the life of Christ in him. What words does he use? How does he place and handle spiritual things?
What is his commitment level in a local assembly? A believer and an unbeliever have no basis for spiritual intimacy. What is My Life Goal? Dating and Marriage are directly related to God's purpose in and for our lives. Find out what your life goals are and then find out also what the other person's life goals are and see if they are compartible. It becomes easy for you to know the kind of woman that should come into your life when you have clarity about where you're going in life.
For example, if my vision is towards the nation or towards changing the world , then the woman that should come into you life must have the capacity to see big, be committed to life long learning, must always be ready to change, grow, improve, and handle giant things. Couples who do not share similar goals are not right for each other. Does He Have Self-Control? You must be emotionally intelligent. The most important area where a person must exercise self control is in the area of sex.
Is there Harmony in His Home? Anyone we are considering to marry should be on generally good terms with his own family. This is because "Unresolved Conflict Transfers! Is This The Proper Time? The question is "Individually, are you both ready to commit to this new life with more cooperation, less freedom, and unreserved faithfulness.
There are three questions we should consider to help determine proper timing: Marriage is a reward not a gift. Marriage is a result of the work that both parties have put in. Dating—this is the time couples get to meet from time to time and basically talk about their spiritual fellowship. This is where you establish if you're both on the same spiritual frequency. The next is the "soulical level" where you begin to check if you can relate and reach yourselves intellectually.
Engagement—this is the level of dreaming and planning. You both engage in sitting down to discuss about your financial plans together, and begin to create the mental picture of the kind of home, family and life you seek to build together. Your goals are written down and they are high enough to stretch you both. You write the goals down on paper and you both have copies with you so you can work individually but towards the same direction.
Marriage—Here you enter full commitment and you can consumate the relationship through physical union.