In this post, I go over my experience: Halloween in Medellin is fun. I wrote this post about my dating experience in Medellin back in April of Places frequented by tourists in Medellin are more saturated with foreigners than before. Furthermore, I am aware of the underworld of sex tourism in Colombia and I know that there are many strip clubs and brothels in Medellin; however, strippers and prostitutes are not the types of girls that I date, nor is it something I would like to promote, therefore, I will not be referring to that in this post.
My situation is a little different than most foreigners here in Colombia. At first glance, Medellin women do not perceive me as a foreigner due to the way I look. It is an immediate sense of curiosity that some Colombian women have upon meeting a foreigner. So I do not get that immediate attention here in Medellin. Regarldess, I look on the bright side and see this as an advantage. I have found that Medellin women, as in most parts of the world, love compliments and like it when a guy can make them laugh.
Socially, women are a little different than the southern California women I was used to picking up. Nightclubs in Medellin Drunken beauties. It is not usual for women in Medellin to go out by themselves just to let loose. Typically, very beautiful girls in Medellin will go to a bar or a nightclub in a group, and there will be guys in that group usually. For an emasculated man from the United States, this is a nightmare.
Here in Medellin, you do NOT need to play that game. I do this often, and many times I will dance one or two songs without even saying a word. I get in there and leave silently. Amazingly, when I do that, women are more attracted than when I start talking to them while dancing.
I started to read about this subject back in high school. Every day I see gorgeous women walking up and down the street. Do not even get me started on the gym, it is almost like a circus sideshow in there. On the street, I am usually attracted to women who look as if they are on their way to an office job. Generally, these women will be dressed and fashionable.
I can tell they are going to work because normally they will have a badge around their neck or pinned to their shirt or pants. Professional women who are educated and have an active daily routine are abundant in Medellin. In Medellin, you will also find a lot of beautiful, smart women who have their own business or work independently.
Being an entrepreneur my self this is a trait that I fancy. This is the type of woman that will discuss politics, religion, fashion, etc, and at the end of the date pull out her wallet and offer to split the bill and sometimes even pay for the whole meal. It always annoys me when foreigners say that they always have to pay when they go on dates with Paisa girls, blaming the women and saying that Medellin women only want to take advantage of them.
Teaching English Valentina is a cutie and smart. I teach English here in Medellin. I do NOT date my students. I am very North American in that regard. Though dating students in Medellin is not uncommon and sometimes not even frowned upon, it is definitely not acceptable in the United States, so I draw a line and never cross it. Students will add me on Facebook and then their friends and cousins will add me.
That has served to be an abundant source of women here in Medellin. Facebook is huge here, and striking up a conversation via facebook messenger after being added is not hard. Women in Medellin are Shy This was a new friend I made and decided to pick up for the picture at Carnaval de Barranquilla. Most Medellin girls are pretty shy by nature. You have to understand that even though Medellin and the metropolitan area has around four million inhabitants it is still a small town.
Medellin is a conservative city which is very much in touch with its old traditions and customs. Family life is very traditional. Gender roles are also very conservative and defined, so logically the women here, for the most part, are timid until you get some alcohol in them and play some reggaeton, but we will get to that in a later blog post.
Even for a fluent Spanish speaker, I have found it frustrating sometimes. Many a time have I given up on a girl only to find out later that she was very interested. One night stands One night stands with women in Medellin are not very common for me.
I definitely experienced more of this living in southern California than here in Medellin. A foreign-looking guy could probably have a very different experience.
I have found that my best pickup move is being honest with women in Medellin. Letting them know right away that I work a lot, and that my business goals are my primary focus has proven to be a key factor when dealing with women here.
In my opinion, men and women in Medellin are possessive. They view their boyfriend or girlfriend as their possession, and they want to be viewed as a possession as well. So jealousy can get out of control. I love to ask my female students what they think of men in Medellin. It is almost expected for a man to have a chick on the side. I avoid this by being honest and direct. I had to include it because I meet far too many guys that are just clueless.
Stylish shorts that come down to the knee or just above work well. It can get very hot during the day in Medellin, yet the majority of local men wear pants. Do NOT wear shorts to go out clubbing at night, they will not let you in. Colombian Men Fashion Dos: This means plucking your nose and ear hair. Do shave your armpits. In fact, many shave their arms and sometimes legs too. Do tuck your shirt in when you go to a fancy club. Again, this is something that I do not do, but local males do this and women respond to it.
Do take a shower. You will not get laid if you stink. Do brush your teeth. Colombians are obsessed with teeth. They love that here. Most local guys douse themselves in it. Do look sharp at all times. When it comes to Dating Agencies I personally have never used one, therefore, I have no recommendations, I do know that there are a few out there that do a good job. I never felt the need to get an account because I meet so many people through my language exchanges and just living my life here in Medellin.
Nevertheless, I subscribed for 3 months and gave it a whirl. In 3 months I went on about 20 dates from Colombian Cupid. It was pretty amazing. Out of the 20, I became friends with 8 of the girls and we still hang out. What does that consist of? The other 4 pictures are pictures of me doing the things I love to do: Stating that I am from California, but that I am Colombian, that I am always busy working, playing on my basketball team, and exploring Colombia.
I wrote this in both English and Spanish. My ideal girl is someone that will motivate me and inspire me every day. So I made a goal to message women.
At first, I started by writing a funny, short message. So I put myself in the shoes of a paisa girl looking for a long-term relationship on Colombian Cupid, and I found my secret sauce. My first message was a compliment about something they wrote on their profile, not about their looks. It took more time, but the success rate skyrocketed.
Do not click on the little heart to show interest. Very beautiful women get that every minute of the day. Read profiles and make a compliment or a relevant comment. Once I had a good message exchange I would go to my filter, Facebook. Once I had them on facebook I was able to see all of their pictures, and they were able to see all of mine. Once we were keen on each other I would ask for the date. There are always over girls online.
Feel free to read it and leave a comment there if you have any questions.