And you should remember that a date is just a date — and it can actually be fun! Whether your long-term goal is to get married and start a family or to set sail around the world in a sailboat built for two, you start in the same place: To better the chances of getting a yes when you ask for a first date, stay flexible, keep things light, and use these tips: Ask for a Wednesday or Thursday night. Never ask for a first date for a Friday or Saturday night too big as date nights or Monday everyone hates Mondays.
Offer a specific opportunity as well as alternative days. Options can include the day, time, activity, and transportation. Options make you sound organized without being rigid. Ask for a first date a week to ten days in advance but you can break this rule with impunity as the need arises. All you want to do here is send a clear, gentle, but important message: Use your whole body. Lean forward, make eye contact, smile, bend your knees a bit, and relax your hands and arms.
Make very, very sure your breath is very, very sweet: Looking someone in the eyes is very alluring. And it makes your date feel like he or she has your undivided attention, which is as it should be. Focus on your partner, not yourself. Make your date feel as though every word is a pearl of wisdom. You may use an online dating site such as Match. There are plenty of positive reasons to look for dates online, but you have to stay safe. Any person you meet online is a stranger. But some people lie about big stuff, like gender, occupation, and marital status.
Again, anyone you meet online is a stranger until you meet face to face and start the process of really getting to know each other. A blank computer screen is seductive. Beware the temptation to share more than you should, whether on your Facebook page, in an online chat room, or in a tweet stream. Here are some hints: Use common sense when posting information about yourself online. Your home address, photos of yourself when you were drunk and half-dressed, and your sexual fantasies have no place on the Internet.
Whether you meet a potential date online or in real life, do not Google that person or search for more information about him or her on social networking sites. If you meet on Facebook, obviously the info he or she has posted in the Facebook profile is fair game.
Doing so can create feelings of jealousy and a sense of over-familiarity that can doom a relationship before it starts. Yes, you read that right! Have some confidence in yourself, and give your date some breathing room. Keep your work life and your love life completely separate. That means no dating at work, but it also means to leave your office computer out of your online dating adventures.
Learn to manage your stress and make it work for you. To calm yourself and get ready to have a great time on your date, try these stress-busting techniques. Square breathing To relax before a date or any other potentially anxiety-ridden experience, try square breathing: Inhale to the count of four, hold to the count of four, exhale to the count of four, and hold for four. Affirmations To calm yourself and quell any surges of anxiety, try an affirmation.