I am speaking from just my own personal experience as a white male and, of course, these points do not refer to all Korean women. The information in this article is going to assume that you are indeed looking for a more substantial relationship rather than something that is short term.
Dating Korean Girls Welcome to Korea. You just arrived as a tourist, a new English teacher, a new exchange student or a factory worker. Your goal is not only to travel, work or study here, but also to live here and experience the culture.
The best thing to overcome loneliness and improve your adjustment to the country would be to start dating a Korean woman. Korean women are really the best girlfriends to have in the world.
They are pretty, cute, sexy, loyal, clean, sweet, fun and have an innocence about life that is quite refreshing. So you start dating a local Korean girl, but quickly discover that dating a Korean girl is quite different than dating back home. Your new relationship is full of cultural differences, linguistic misunderstandings and prejudice. When a Korean girl dates a foreigner, they are scared that their new boyfriend may think they are easy. So, Korean women may be more cautious dating a foreign man than when dating a Korean man.
They are checking to see if you are just looking for an easy girl. If you are a white, young, and somewhat handsome, male then a lot of Korean girls will quickly and automatically judge you as some sort of playboy or womanizer. They know as a foreigner in Korea you attract a lot of attention and they may assume that you must have many girls chasing you. They will certainly start any relationship with suspicion. You are guilty until you can prove your innocence. Early on, you may find that your new girlfriend will want to check your phone for evidence of you seeing another woman.
She may be aggressive about this, so be ready to hand over your phone. She wants to check your messages and photos and interrogate you about every female name and photo. If you decline her requests to see your phone, then you are automatically guilty as a womanizer.
Hiding your phone just creates suspicion. The act of allowing her access to your phone will go a long way in gaining her trust quickly and destroy her suspicions. If you are stubborn and insist on not showing your phone, she will eventually get her hands on it and check it whether you like it or not.
A lot of Korean women hate Korean traditions and culture which tend to favor Korean men. You are clearly a more positive alternative than marrying a Korean guy and having to deal with an evil Korean mother-in-law or other intrusive family members. When you start to date a Korean woman, they may already be thinking of marrying you and returning to your home country one day. I suggest you be clear early in the relationship about your future plan about returning home and if that plan includes her.
Thanks for the year of free sex and being my tour guide. Unfortunately, this situation is all too common. Even when a Korean girl is dating a Korean guy, parents have significant power in manipulating her choice of a potential husband. Do not underestimate the power of the parents. A Korean woman depends more on her family for support than a western woman.
Koreans tend to live with their family until they are married off in their late 20s or early 30s. It is common for young women to have curfew even into their 30s. Usually, Koreans do not introduce their boyfriend or girlfriend until they are ready to marry.
But when dating foreigner, they may want to test the waters about what the parental reaction will be before they decide on dating or marrying a foreigner. Any meeting with the parents is a very serious event. Take her family seriously and respect the rules of her house. Keep the curfew as best you can. Even a few Korean words is enough to help win them over.
You will be pressed to learn the Korean language, eat all kinds of Korean food, follow Korean fashion and follow proper Korean dating etiquette. Korean Language You may be urged to learn the Korean language as your relationship deepens. It is not necessarily for your or her benefit, but rather she is already thinking ahead to the day you meet her parents.
She wants you to speak Korean to her family in the future. Korean Food You may be open to trying new food, but you may get served a squirming live octopus in front of you or freshly grilled dog.
Of course for Korean men, they are comfortable walking around in a pink shirts, but it may be something you would never even be caught dead in. This may also be true for couple shirts. I suggest setting the fashion rules early one.
Dating Culture You should follow Korean dating culture. Be sure to know the special days here. Also, be sure to buy appropriate gifts, like jewelry, flowers, expensive brand names, make-up, etc. Also, you need to buy and wear a couple ring.
The couple ring is an important milestone in a relationship in Korea to show that you are in love and in an exclusive relationship with each other. Women like you to spend money on them and not be cheap. They like to go out and eat at nice restaurants. They prefer their boyfriends to drive nice cars, have good jobs, take them on trips, buy them expensive gifts and, of course, pay for their plastic surgery if possible.
Ok, the last one was a joke, kind of, but you get the point, they understandably like financially stable guys. Certainly this is an international norm. The keepers are not shallow. Korean women tend to be a little more forgiving of poorer foreigners.
They can recognize your love is genuine and they are smart enough to know this is more valuable. She is in a life contest with her friends to see who has the most fun and the best boyfriend. Anything special will be communicated to her social network and she gains pleasure from positive and jealous responses from her friends. Keep the dates fun, the food delicious and the gifts romantic or expensive and you will be considered a good boyfriend by her and the netizen review board.
They heard all the talk about your dick size and are eager to see the truth. When the special moment does come, it is up to the guy to lead the way. Korean women can be quite passive in bed. Korean women will trust you and expect the man to take control of birth control. Any other suggested form of birth control is just too foreign and will not even be considered. Abortion is a sensitive topic, I am not making this into an argument of pro-choice or pro-family, I am just discussing the realities of Korea.
It is a rare thing to find a woman pregnant or with children before If she is made pregnant by a foreigner, then for you to suggest a trip to the hospital makes you an evil guy.
She will hope you suggest taking her and the baby back to your home country, but if this is not meant to be, then she will just abort the baby. The cost of an abortion is around 1,, won and although abortion is officially illegal, you can easily find a clinic in every city. How can they get revenge? Well, they can interfere with your job or studies. They can talk to your employer, teacher, Korean friends and try to make it look like you victimized them.
They may call the police on any illegal activities you may be up to. Be afraid, be very afraid.