And my kid is definitely awesome. Through this exercise, I put together a few guidelines for dating a single mom. This will either make you run for the hills or step up your game. Being a single mother can be the loneliest job in the world. Sure, I am never really alone. I have my child with me most of the time, and the joy that comes from that is a true blessing. Sometimes I feel pangs of jealousy when I see conventional families with a mother and a father.
But there is no sharing as a single mother. Even if I have a village of wonderful people to help me, I am the only person that can be the parent. If I am going to be with you, I want you to fuel me in some way. I want to share stuff with you. I want to be with someone who makes me feel alive and makes my time worthwhile. That being said… Advertisement 2. My time with you is golden. It means that we have to make our time together a priority.
That means planning in advance. I have to get a babysitter and schedule how long I can be out and when I need to return. The clock is always ticking for me. But do you know how happy I am when I get that alone time with you? Put in the effort into making it special every time. Sharing hobbies and traveling together are important aspects in evolving relationships. They help us grow together, experience things, and even help determine our compatibility.
Our benchmarks as a couple are totally different, the obvious being your relationship with my child. Just like shared hobbies and travel experiences can help bond two people, your relationship with my son helps bond me with you. My child is my everything, and that is why…. Everything counts as double. Everyone has a guard up to protect oneself. But I have a guard up to protect not one, but two people.
If anything, I am more vulnerable because I am more serious about my time and my relationships. I believe a man that accepts his girlfriend as a mother will learn to adjust himself to that lifestyle. Our dates will sometimes have to include my child. I forget to understand your position.
This is the one that ties a neat bow around the whole thing. I have to constantly remind myself that you do not share my responsibilities nor my past experiences. You should be allowed to have bad days, and as a girlfriend, I should hold them to the same regard as my bad days. Overall, it is a thrilling position to date a single mother. Be prepared to have a woman who is upfront, passionate, and nurturing.
Whether or not you planned to be a father, there may also be a kid who falls in love with you, too. The reward is in the risk.