Guess what — she does the same thing. To snag her attention, your photos need to stand out. Put a rose in your mouth, Bachelor-style. Get someone on Fiverr. Strong online dating photos have these three qualities in common: They show you looking your very best. Attractive women have their pick of the men on pretty much any online dating site. So why would you lead with terrible photos? She wants to know more about you. The harsh artificial light highlights your flaws and casts harsh shadows on your face, neither of which is attractive.
Natural light is universally flattering, so taking pictures outside is a great idea. You may even want to consider having some professional photos taken. A pro knows how to manipulate the lighting, suggest poses that look natural, and highlight your best qualities. Have the photographer meet you at an interesting outdoor location, preferably several. Most pros will have a package that includes a few outfit changes as well.
Chase Amante, dating expert and author of this definitive guide to meeting women on Plenty of Fish , said professional photos can make a huge difference: An ugly guy can clean up in online dating if he has great photos, while good looking and charming guys who may do great offline can send out hundreds of messages and hear nothing but crickets in response.
Get professional photographs if you can afford them. Get interesting photos that show you with a pet, outdoors, or showing off abs if you have them. Remember, alpha males have power. Here are a few examples: You should be interacting with your friends in a visually interesting way — posed group shots can be a turn off. Stand with your body angled at a 45 degree angle to the camera.
But be interesting — show her your hobbies, your travels, your dog, your active social life. But if you consider the pattern seen among celebrity autograph photos — or even images of online customer service agents — it's almost always about warmth…along with confidence. Whether you're a celebrity, a customer service agent or someone on a dating site, the end goal of all these pictures is similar.
You want to send the message that you're sharp and competent, yet easy-going and approachable. We've consistently seen that warmth wins every time. Congruency is essential to build her trust. Include photos on your profile page that clearly demonstrate you are a sociable guy with lots going on in his life.
Of course, your primary photo should only feature you. Women also love photos of men with animals. I know this is a major cliche, but it really does elicit a strong reaction in us.
The photo could be with your pet dog or even a lion cub that you got the chance to handle. If you don't have a pet then borrow one. A recent Tinder study showed guys with 3 photos in their profile got 6 times as many matches as those with a single photo. Include a picture of you in your element, preferably looking off camera and laughing. Then use a picture of you doing an interesting hobby — it will make you seem authentic.
Next, a picture of you with your friends. Then 2 other pictures that you feel represent who you are as a man. One bad photo can torpedo your chances: But the good news is weeding out the bad ones is easy. The best way to know what appeals to a woman is to ask one. Post your top contenders on a photo ranking site like PhotoFeeler.
Go with the most popular ones. The more opinions you get, the stronger your photo lineup will be. You can also ask your females friends to rank them for you from most favorite to least favorite. Again, the more rankings you get, the better. Keep track of how many points each photo receives in the rankings. Go with the ones that got the lowest number of points overall, and the photo that scored the lowest number takes primary spot honors. You can really let your inner geek go wild, and create a spreadsheet to track your data.
Out of the photos listed in the example, your ideal lineup would be B, C, A and E. Of course, this ranking assumes that you're wearing a different outfit in each photo, and they were all taken in different locations.