The questions take on all kinds of forms: If you are like me though, you simply smile and give an uncomfortable answer to their condescending inquiries. Who knew that being a single woman over 25 automatically gave everyone the right to cross-examine you like a suspect on the witness stand? Who thought that was a good idea?
Being single is alienating enough, without a constant reminder of how happy everyone else is with their significant other! The Greatest Seat at the Holiday Table And with that one click or scroll, your whole life can be defined by the outside world.
Essentially, someone is deciding your relationship fate based on a two-second judgment of your best profile picture. When coming face to face with my intruders as a single woman, I could literally see the concern wash over their face when they found out I was…wait for it…single! How awful it made me feel. Yet, without answer, another birthday would pass without a ring on my finger or even a prospect. Over time I started buying in to their way of thinking — that something was wrong with me.
I began to believe that I could not be who I wanted to be. My goals and dreams or, for that matter, my life would never take off until I got married. How to Want More of Jesus and Less of You It was an awful and lonely place to live within my own thoughts of insecurity until one faithful night, God did answer my prayer. The hard truth came by God showing me that I had not only accepted the lie that my life began only after marriage , but that I was also missing out on all the plans He had for me right now.
By doing so, I unintentionally was living in disobedience to the call and purpose He had on my life. I had to take that one in…. I began to understand the verse in Jeremiah With that truth now deeply rooted inside of me, I needed to find a way out of my holding pattern that had defined my life for so long. So with my feet finally finding some steady ground, God began to take me on a journey and I pray helps release you from your holding pattern, too. Here are the steps I took to embrace my singleness: Our hearts are tender and I was guilty, too, of handing it over to the wrong people.
I had to allow God to show me where I had been hurt and allow His love bring me to a place of restoration. There may be a lot of tears! I had to learn how to renew my mind daily. Who does God say I am? Is there any truth to what people are saying to me? Who can I trust as my inner circle? Show me the scripture that says that! Just put the phone down please! Ouch that one hurt me too! So who or what is defining you? The two simply just compliment the other.