Answered 36w ago being a man on a dating site One of the trickiest parts of getting started with online dating is creating your dating profile. Out of all our tips, my number one is to add details to your profile. One makes you sound like everyone else, the other makes you stand out. Three online dating profile examples for men in their 20s and 30s No String Attached: I open doors and like to go for drinks AND dinner on the first date. I try to eat healthy but I have a major weakness for pizza.
Let me know if you want to go get a slice! The most laid back thing about me is my cat and even he has to get up and run laps around the room from time to time.
I love the beach, watching football, movies, writing music and poetry, spontaneous trips, and learning about all the things I thought I knew but now realize I had no idea about. Do you have an odd laugh? Freak out at scary movies? Are you blunt and to-the-point? Leave Them Wanting More In the past, online dating profiles read almost like a resume—the point was to outline everything about yourself. Your profile is a preview of who you are, not the whole picture.
Give people a reason to message you to learn more. I run 12 to 20 miles a week for exercise, but when I have the time, a long hike with someone is even better. I share custody of my two awesome kids so I usually have 2—3 free nights a week and every other weekend to meet new people and hang with friends. My year-old self would have never believed this. I try to balance family, work, and time for myself and enjoy all three. Lately my hobbies include weightlifting, and tinkering with music no, I will not call myself a DJ.
If you want to know more, just ask. Use a Quote If you have a favorite quote or song lyric, add it in. Quotes can be a great way to get your personality across and show people what you believe in without having to explain it all yourself. Still not sure what to say? Check out our list of over online dating profile quotes for some ideas. If You Have Kids, Mention Them One of the pluses of online dating is that you can get the kid conversation out of the way early. In fact, on Zoosk people who mention kids in their profile or in a first message get more responses and attention from other daters.
Other than that, I work in financial advising but now I split my time between teaching and consulting. I love my kids and tell great stories. Laughing and eating into the night. SillyBilly, 33 Astronomy, reading, coffee-shop people watching, playing make believe with my nephew, eating out on Monday nights, and staying inside on rainy days. Just a few of the things that make me happy. Maybe you can help add to the list. Lists are an effective and quick way to get your personality across.
Same goes for your hobbies and even your kids or family. So make sure your profile reflects that! Little did I know I'd try online dating myself. I'm not the kind of person who operates under the assumption that single women, by virtue of their being single and unattached, would be interested in a relationship with me.
So I'm not going to approach someone cute and start chatting them up with the intent to ask them out. What I found nice about online dating was the context it provided. Sure, you are meeting strangers, but you are meeting strangers who have pre-vetted you in some way by looking at your profile. Just knowing that the person you're meeting is considering you the same way you are considering them takes a lot of pressure off.
Having no experience and little expectation beyond what I had learned from reading their great data blog, I decided to play it straight. I filled out my profile, used accurate pictures, and was very honest about what I was looking for. I was looking for someone intelligent and fun, and especially someone who was comfortable with who they were and their own success. After I finished my profile and answered a few dozen questions, I lurked for a while.
I paid for my a-list account and looked at profiles, wondering idly if they would be fun to meet. About a month into this exercise in timidity, I got an email from OkCupid telling me that someone who was an exceptionally good match was checking me out. About 5 minutes later, I got a message from Nora Mullaney , and we've been together ever since.
From my perspective, it was pretty easy, though Nora tells me my experience isn't typical, and I'm very inclined to agree. Regardless, I can't argue with outcomes here, so I suppose that makes me an example of man who had a very positive experience with online dating. I think a common thread I find with my friends who are frustated with dating in general is that they really haven't set their expected values properly. It is the way to meet people who are potentially compatible and are also interested in meeting people to date.
After the first date, then the process for growing and nurturing a relationship is identical to regular dating. To summarize, here's what I did. Took time to understand what I wanted in a potential mate. Wrote those things down on my profile. Described myself accurately for anyone who was employing a similar strategy. Put up accurate and current picture of myself. Communicated in a personable and non-creepy way. For instance, as an Asian male who grew up in Ohio, a thought that crosses my mind is that dating is one of the few areas in civil society where racial preference is acceptable.
While I don't particularly care about the race of the person I'm dating, I know other people do. In fact, I'm willing to bet the men are most often better than the women because men get few first contact messages, if any, from women. While women can just sort of pick and choose and feel like the Queen of England.
In general, its almost impossible to not be a single woman by choice. Any woman on any given day can have almost any man she wants. This is only emphasized more in online dating.
For this answer, I'll use OKCupid as the standard. Andrew Long's answer says it best, but I'll add my own spin on it. First of all, as a man, you are almost always judged on only three things. Secondly, you have to stand out. If you lack creativity, this will be almost impossible. But even if you are creative and I would call myself extremely creative and original , women like different things. What one woman may find an incredible profile many more will hate. There is no universally "good" way to make a profile or send a message.
This makes things hard, even when you go after women with the same interests as you. It is just unpredictable, for the most part. Its easy to know what to not do, but very difficult to know what you're supposed to do, because there is no answer for that question. And "be yourself" is almost guaranteed to set you up for failure, because few people are genuinely interesting on their own. No matter what band you play in, how many countries you've traveled to, or what your cool career is.
The best thing to do is to be an exaggerated version of yourself, hiding all flaws and slightly exaggerating all truths. That's one way to stand out. Thirdly, women tend to get, on average, twenty first-contact messages a week. Men will be lucky to get one. Attractive women may get up to a week. As said earlier, the majority of these women will get spoiled and picky because of the attention and only attracted to the most shallow of features in a man. Both men and women are typically shallow and superficial on dating sites, but because women get more messages, their behavior is often thought to be excusable even though it isn't.
Because of this, most men who think they're attractive and sexy will send out one-word or one-sentence messages to these women. Many women will complain about the short messages, yet still not mind them if the guy is tall, sexy, and well off money-wise. Among a sea of generic messages, the women will usually only pay attention to only one of two things. Or does the guy stand out in a sea of generic messages? Chances are, you won't be the first type of guy. As good-looking, in-shape, or great as you think your job might be, there's very much likely to be at least ten men better in all of these things than you.
So standing out at least becomes more memorable in a girl's mind. The best way to do this is to have a strong sense of humor and to talk about specific details in her profile to show that you've read it. Even still, if you don't meet her physical requirements, it could all be for nothing. But in the online dating world, being mediocre means you are almost completely un-dateable.
So even if you're a non-famous version of Hugh Jackman or Ben Affleck, the odds are still quite stacked against you. Personality mostly doesn't matter in dating sites, after all.