Do women go for the heart of the man? Airstar This writeup is just wat I needed to read. Thank God all d same. Lisha Such excellent advise!! Priscilla Lenora Miles jf Speaking as a Christian…Please understand that the man is being responsible by trying to take care of his children without the stress and burden of maintaining a home.
Conversely, he is giving his girls the womanly companionship they need through his mother, and helping his mother at the same time! This is Logical Thinking! This man has every right not to concern himself with a relationship until he has everything in place.
He already has a life! He cannot and will not increase his responsibility emotionally. I have much respect for a man who follows order, but believe me, if there is going to be an additional person in his life, that person will be adding and not subtracting, multiplying and not dividing!
If you become an addition to his life, believe me, he will ultimately make the decision to add what compliments him, his children, and his family, which is the most important to him…at this time! Then you too have become a part of that priority and accountability! Remember, God looks at the man when he observes the family!
By the way, is your relationship based on Christianity no sex because God does not honor or bless our mess! Priscilla Lenora Miles You are on point my Brother! Justpassinthrough I actually know a couple of couples haha that this happened to. Democracy forever I worked as a nurse in the emergency room. A Mexican middle-aged doctor was always looking at greener pastures. His idea was that a white or fair-skinned thin and sexy blonde blue-eyed woman was the ideal beautiful woman.
One day he was lusting after a beautiful tall blonde, blue eyed woman. It turned out she was mentally-challenged and no etiquette. Looks can be deceiving. A sexy woman could be a tormenting spirit, the devil himself. Democracy forever Do not be so desperate my friend. It is better to eat alone than have somebody with you that torments you in that or any other fashion.
If it does not look or feel right, it is probably not right. Ask the Lord to show you signs. Only the Lord can give you comfort and love in your single lifelihood. Democracy forever What I would do, as a Christian, give him the same treatment. If he complains, express your feelings.
Ask him to own his behavior as well. Then bargain with him. He goes through a battery of lie detector tests that prove his intentions are not tainted with lust. If he is fed up with you and he really wishes to move on, time for Christian woman marriage counselor.
Many Christian men believe women are second class citizens. They do not treat women with delicacy and pure unadulterated love. The truth will set one free. Democracy forever God not only expects prayer but action behind prayer. One should not things like that slide between Christians. You bring your concerns to the floor and your Pastor.
Democracy forever I guess you are not used to this kind of love a mother and a son. You should have noticed all this between the two before you married. It is your fault. Ask God to change your perspective on how you look at them. Time for big miracle of some kind in your life so you will not be miserable. Democracy forever Is there anyone in your life that can help you fill your void of your better half? If there is, bring someone-your uncle, cousin, sister-in-Christ, etc.
If your husband refuses to let them in, then you ask him to change. Let mom find herself someone else in her life to keep her busy. Do not ever separate them completely. If you love your spouse, you have bind your heart to God not to hate her and feel compassion for her. Giving of yourself- you will be rewarded by God giving you peace and love.
If you choose to be a good steward, a helping hand for others regardless of what life throws down at you, this is a lifelong friend here for you. Do not expect anything in return, ever from them! You may be disappointed if your do. Choose-friendship or a disappointing love relationship. Democracy forever That is exactly what I do to ward-off the leeches.
I wear an engagement ring. The man that God wants for me will not see the engagement ring and will try to get to know me in some manner or the other.
I do not dress up for anybody but solely to represent Jesus. Democracy forever What happened after 2 years? Angel Chase or shows interest? Angel Stop second guessing what you already know as a Christian woman. May God bless you with a Godly mate one day! I am past 50 and have never been married, though I had been proposed to 3 times. I am fairly content, yet have found myself take an interest in someone, not for his looks but for his character.
I wish I knew if he were, but as I am continually told, let him pursue and that is what I am doing. I just wonder do genuine Christian men pursue the woman the way God made them to, or can someone be interested in a woman, but just scared or shy? Possibly a bad marriage or long time relationship? Okay, guys what do you say?
They gotta walk the walk and talk the talk. The only way to know is to take things verrrry slowly and observe. Get to know his friends. Are most of them worldly? Well, chances are there will be a more than a touch of worldliness with him as well. Do you see him active in church…and not merely there because you are?
Google him and see what comes up. Definitely a red flag. So when you see that, run! At least with a non-believer you know where things stand. With a hypocrite, they will not only try to justify themselves, they will also try to drag you down as well knowing full well they are doing wrong. Sometimes the man is just shy or scared. DesertFlower Thing is, a sexy body or affluence can only take a person so far.
What happens when one starts aging and losing their looks? What if one loses their fortune in an economic downtown? How did I find out? I asked the guy himself if he was interested. Yes, there is the risk for rejection and embarrassment but better than pine away in la-la land and live in delusion, right?
DesertFlower Only he can come to compete faith. Nothing you can do here apart from praying from him. I would say do NOT marry that man as it is very clear you two are unequally yoked.
In fact, they may find it a challenge. Plus wearing that ring just might put off the appropriate man for you because he has the morals and good home training not to go after a woman who is putting herself out there as spoken for. Plus the women who wind up supporting men usually do that to themselves. Do you recommend that too?
DesertFlower Did you not notice anything amiss before you married? No more, no less. DesertFlower Men are men, Christian or not, and the fact is men DO consider looks first, then personality.