Tweet Joe Newton First let me say that I think you give excellent advice, even if it is a bit pedestrian at times. I have a small problem: Last fall, my penis bent up and to the left at an almost 90 degree angle. I know from Google that this is not an unusual problem. And at 59, I am thankful that things are working as well as they are.
But I fly gliders, and the relief system is a "Texas catheter" with a drain line to outside the glider. I believe that the bending on my penis may be the result of trauma caused by removing the catheter.
In your many years of dealing with penis problems—I know you are not a urologist, but still—have you run across problems of a similar nature? Is there a way to remove adhesive from the penis that will not cause trauma? Gliding season will be starting soon, and I dread using the same system if it will cause more damage. My partner is an amazing woman—70, by the way, and by far the best partner I have ever had oh, my brethren, do not look only to youth! Hanging Under Nice Glider First let me say thank you for the qualified compliment—you sure know how to flatter a girl—and I'll try to keep my trademark excellent-if-pedestrian advice coming, HUNG.
Also, you're right, I'm not a urologist. He's also a fellow of the American College of Surgeons and my go-to guy for dick-related medical questions. Sometimes the bend is slight and doesn't interfere with reasonable penile functions.
Sometimes the bend is severe enough to make erections painful and intercourse impossible. Ninety degrees is quite a big bend, however, and less likely to resolve spontaneously, but it is still worth waiting. The latter is fraught with increased complication rates due to scarring so near the tip. Both can straighten the penis, but at a cost of length in many cases. As for drainage alternatives while gliding, I suggest the following product: I've been with my wife for 15 years.
I know that passion transitions in a long-term relationship, but I'm having a hard time finishing lately. We all know that a lot of people who own a vagina enjoy foreplay to help the orgasms along. Will foreplay help people who own a penis get to the moment faster? I'm pretty sure I know the answer, and I figured you're the one to ask what the best foreplay options are because your sexual knowledge is vast and you regularly deal with two penises at a time.
As someone who pleasures a penis and who has a penis that is pleasured, what is the best preparation to get guys off before the insertion happens? I know some men can't go there because that tit-play shit—like feelings, musicals, sit-ups, and voting for women—could turn you gay. But if you're up for it, SWOMPS, have the wife play with or even clamp your tits, and then shove a plug in your ass that stimulates your prostate while also remembering to engage what's often called "the largest sex organ": Talk dirty to each other!
If you're already proficient at JV dirty talk—telling 'em what you're about to do "I'm going to fuck the shit out of you" , telling 'em what you're doing "I'm fucking the shit out of you" , telling 'em what you did "I fucked the shit out of you" —move on to varsity dirty talk: Talk about your fantasies, awesome experiences you've had in the past, things you'd like to try or try again with your partner.
To get your dick there—to push past those SSRIs—fire on all cylinders tits, hole, brain, mouth, and cock before and during insertion. I'm in a bit of a state. I haven't told anyone, and I needed to get it out. I'm in a long-term, mostly monogamous relationship, but my boyfriend is overseas for work at the moment, so I can't really talk to him about it.
So I'm talking to you. I hope you have a friend you can confide in, because you need a shoulder to cry on and I can't provide that for you here. What I can provide is some perspective. I'm just a little older than you—okay, I'm a whole lot older than you. I came out in the summer of —and two years later, healthy, young gay men started to sicken and die. During the s and most of the s, learning you were HIV-positive meant you had a year or two to live.
Today, a person with HIV is expected to live a normal life span—so long as they have access to treatment and they're taking their meds. Arguably, your boyfriend and your other sex partners are safer now that you know than they were before you were diagnosed.
Because it's not HIV-positive men on meds who are infecting people, it's men who aren't on meds because they don't know they're HIV-positive. The news you just received is distressing and life changing.
But it's not as distressing as it was three decades ago, and it doesn't mean your life is over. I remember holding a boyfriend on the day he was diagnosed as HIV-positive more than 25 years ago, both of us weeping uncontrollably. His diagnosis meant he was going to die soon. You have a lot of time left, and if you get into treatment and take your meds, DADAC, you will live a long and healthy life, a life filled with love, connection, and intimacy. Spend some time feeling sorry for yourself, feel the fuck out of those feelings, and then go live your life—live it for all the guys who didn't get to celebrate their 33rd birthdays.
Don't wait until your boyfriend returns to tell him. He needs to get tested right away. On the Lovecast, Dr. Lori Brotto on asexuals: