Serious questions for when you are in a serious discussion. Fun questions for over dinner. If you are just looking for some fun questions to ask her, you might want to try our questions to ask a girl. Also at the bottom of the page is a bonus list of 77 questions without commentary and some tips and red flags to watch out for when you are dating someone.
There is also a PDF and image of all the questions without commentary at the end of the article. With all that being said, here goes, the best list of questions to ask your girlfriend! It just means you might want to keep an eye on that issue and decide how important it is to you going forward in the relationship.
Also, remember to listen to her answers without judgement. Questions about the future Looking for a long term relationship? Take minute, close your eyes and imagine what your perfect life would look like. Describe it in as much detail as possible. What would an average day in your perfect life look like? These questions are great for finding out what she wants out of life and the life she would live if everything went perfectly.
So, if your perfect life is travelling around the world with nothing but a back pack and no cares, but her perfect life is building a business from the ground up; well, you two have some talking to do.
What do you think the role of a woman in a relationship should be? Should roles change when a couple gets married or moves in together? These two questions to ask your girlfriend are great for seeing how both of your roles in the relationship might change in the future, or at least how she is expecting them to change. Questions about the past The past has a lot of useful information for the present and the future. Remember to pick the right time and the right place for serious talks about the past.
What was your most serious relationship? How long did it last? Why did it end? Plus, it will tell you more about how she views serious relationships. Have you ever cheated on someone before? This one is a land mine so be careful. I may be wrong on this one, but I think there is a reason people say once a cheater always a cheater. Has she cheated on more than one boyfriend?
Same goes for you. How much time did you usually spend with ex-boyfriends? Did you think it was too much time, or not enough time? What did you usually do with your ex-boyfriends? Okay, one more time. No getting jealous over ex-boyfriends. This questions basically lets you know how much distance you should be giving her.
Some girls like spending as much time with their boyfriend as they can and some prefer having some distance. Questions about her These questions are all about what she likes. You can keep these in mind to make her happy, or you can see how they compare with your likes and interests.
What are the three most annoying things a boyfriend can do? How about the three best things? This one will tell you how risk seeking or risk averse she is.
If she is a lot more risk seeking than you, you might have to expand your comfort zone. If you are more risk seeking than her, be prepared for the fact she might not want to go with you on adventures. And she might not want you to do risky things either. Do you prefer being outdoors or indoors? Better get some hiking boots. If you are both really different, maybe try compromising and doing cabin trips. What three objects that you own do you value most? Is it something sentimental? She probably has a strong sentimental streak.
Is it something expensive or something she can show off? Get ready to say good bye to your money. Or at least gift categories. Sentimental, get her something that reminds her of your relationship.
Practical, give her something that will help with her hobbies. And so on… Question What would you do if a close friend started saying mean things about you? This question lets you know how she deals with conflict.
Is she a peacemaker? Does she escalate things? Does she just avoid it? What are your three favorite movies and three favorite TV shows? This is a surprisingly practical question that will let you know how much you two will enjoy going to see movies together and watching shows together. She might just be humoring you and watching them because you like them. What is your idea of a perfect Saturday night?
This one will let you know what she likes to do. Questions about sex If you are in a place in your relationship where you are comfortable talking about sex, then these are some great questions to learn more about who she is sexually. How many sexual partners have you had?
Have you ever had unprotected sex? And besides you probably want a girlfriend that enjoys sex as much as you do. What two things would you like more of while having sex? A good sex life is important for a healthy relationship. You should both be trying to make each other happy in the bedroom. How often do you like having sex?
This question will help you see how well both of your expectations about the frequency of sex match up. But you can try talking through it and trying to find some middle ground. What time of day is the best for sex? This one will give you a good idea of what time of the day she will most likely be in the mood. Good intel for sure. Questions about money Ah money, the number one starter of fights in a relationship.
These might not be the most exciting questions to ask your girlfriend, but they are seriously important. How good are you with budgeting money? At least one of you should be good with money. If you are both bad with money, one of you will need to work on your money management skills.
And you should probably decide who if you are in a serious relationship or live together. What do you think is worth spending extra on to get the best? It can also let you know what she values. What do you think is a waste of money? What is the best thing about money: This question will let you know if she is a saver, values experiences, or values objects. Do with that knowledge what you will. In a relationship, when should a man pay for something, when should a woman pay something, and when should they split the cost?
This one is mostly for new relationships, but really good to know what kind of expectations are on the table. So there we go, those are my questions to ask your girlfriend.
Just remember, like I said before. None of these questions is a relationship sinker, just keep in mind what is most important for you in a relationship. No commentary here, just a list of questions you can browse through and pick the ones you like. What is the most terrifying thing you can imagine? What would be the worst flavor of ice cream?
Would you get into a relationship with yourself?