So, I have simplified the WHY of cheating by whittling it down to five things. This is not intended to be a complete list, mind you. I think the 2 main reasons why guys cheat goes like this: Miss Insecurity is dating Mr. Self-Confident, and with that relationship, she is trying desperately to plug some pretty big holes in her own self-esteem. She becomes obsessed with her boyfriend.
You know how that usually turns out…clinginess, jealousy, anger, tears. Self-Confident too hard about his commitment. She would prefer to assume or in some cases, dream he is as committed to her as she is to him.
BTW, guys have to deal with insecurity just as much as girls. They wait for a while, giving promises of everlasting love til they finally get what they want. Then they stick around a little longer and say Hey! Boyfriends Cheat because their Relationship Goals are Different Then there are guys who are very willing to talk about the relationship.
Some girls give a lot and put up with a lot in order to get what they want most…the relationship. And most often in the end they end up with a broken heart. On the other hand, some guys including the ones more likely to cheat come at it from the other direction. He wants sex, even if he has to give some relationship to get it. But cheating violates the relationship, not the sex.
To put it bluntly…guys cheat because the relationship was never their goal…it was the sex. Remember, guys are not that complex. You probably know about some girls who stalk guys like sexual predators- they try in every way they can to get them to cheat.
Generally speaking, guys who grow up in homes where their parents cheat, find it much easier to do the same thing. Counselor Gary Neuman asked cheating and non-cheating husbands about why they cheated.
Some guys give in easily to the temptation to cheat because that is what their friends and family do. He was married to one of hottest women on the planet, but he was a big-time cheater with lots of women. The guy cheated once, then twice, then three times. It became easier and easier to give in, harder and harder to say no.
If you are dating a guy who cheated before, there is a good chance he will cheat on you too, even if from the beginning he never planned it that way. If he has cheated more than once, it is even more likely that it will happen again. I believe sometimes people are truly ashamed of a choice they made and would like to undo the past.
My point in this blog is to point out things to look for and consider if you find yourself in a relationship with someone who cheats.
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Also, the blog loads very quick for me on Opera. Fifi My boyfriend put the password in his phone, I used to check what is he up to, what can I do? Alex Boey Put on yours too. Naaz My bf had cheated me. Now he finding negative points in me and always try to fight with me.
I dnt want to lost him what should i do to make him stick on me only and to become perfect in his view? I got out of a relationship very similar to yours. I stuck around for 6 year, an nothing changed.
He did the ultimate betrayal, which was, he went an told his ex ALL of our personal business…even down to the sex. I had to findbout from her all ofbour business he had told her. Even then, I tried to be with him because I loved him so much. So then, hetried to find any and everything to complain about just to start an argument because he knew that I would leave. I notice that I became a convenience for him.
You can be everything he wants you to be, but if he lost interest some time ago, you are just wasting your time. I know its hard, but move on.
You can aleays get a better guy. I hope this helps. If the guy knows you really love him more than he loves you he is more likely to use you and cheat again… I know this from experience lala My bF cheated on me with an uglier, no selF respect and brainless girl. Tori My bf broke up with me bc he doesnt get that im not fake and he.. And i invited him and they cancled the movies and he thinks im fake bc..
I feel alone lost confused. In his emails he try to hide these dating sites he signs on okcupid, xmeeting, meetme, instabang. He says I am ugly cause I Spanish not a white rich girl. I need help aruna i hated reading what you wrote re your bf he is mean and you do need help: You deserve to be treated with respect in a relationship and need to leave. Thanks for reaching out and telling your story.
If you want to download our free app to your phone to chat, call, email and get encouraged here is the link to download it. Now looking back on the so called relationship, I should of walked away after proposing to me, I knew there was something not right! I asked him if he was Gay…. Later…I asked him if he was married! It was like pulling teeth……but he finally said YES!
ST Come to find out he had lied to me, even stupid little things were a lie….. He told this woman he loved her right in my face! I freaked out,swinging, hitting, punching him…. Fisical, emotional and mental abused for 18 years. Normaly if i was in right mind he would regret ever knowing and he would be gone from the first moment. But i was severely disable from car accident on several nsrcotics that kept me passive and numb. I loved him with all my heart and soul.
Every told me to get rid of him that i can do better. The thought putting him out with no where to go and no money would tear me to pieces and felt sorry for him and rstionalizing thath he had a hard before i made some one out of him making so much more money and not work hard but smsrt. He would quit jpbs or walk off. He knew i was his leaning post. Once he did some thing frightening i came to my sences and it hurt me to the core to finsly reslize and accept the truth of him not loving but hated me for pressing two abuse charges on him.
I started packing my clothes and making preparstion to get away from him. That is whem he kissed both of my hands telling me i am a good wife. Too latevak on my way out the door never to return. I was cold as ice no feelings. Signed off lease left every thing as it was my apartment to begin with and he was not working but i paid all bills and rent then walk away proudly. Started divorsce proseedings and supported him for one year and a moth to give him a chance to find work and get on his feet.
After all that he continued to ask for help then i finaly said i am cutting all support. For well over a year up until two days ago after repeated told him not to not call or tex any more that we should accept is over and move on. This time he let go i have not hrard from him in two days. I lost weight and over came my suppose to be permanemtly disable.
I no longer need care and getting back on my feet. While he struggles to barely survive. Am gone baby and feeling good! David I have given up hope.. I work I pay bills take care of my family. Think that me right this.
I feel she has been dishonest with me and now I have been giving her the cool treatment. Jasmine Kat are you really into him..
We began a passionate relationship. He broke up with her then got back with her and lied to us both.