Share Hilary Duff recently announced that she has been swiping through Tinder as a means of finding eligible men. And after inviting her first suitor to accompany her and a bunch of her gal pals on a bowling alley outing, the "Come Clean" singer has moved on to chatting with other singles.
She also revealed that her profile is pretty basic with her tagline simply boasting: Adele once trusted eHarmony to work its matchmaking magic, Charlie Sheen was spotted on MillionaireMatch. View photos Adele, Andy Cohen, and Martha Stewart have even looked for love on the Internet Getty Images More But while Hollywood stars hopping on the online dating bandwagon is becoming a trend, some professional matchmakers advise against it. When the Bravo reality star's busy schedule didn't allow time for her to have organic run-ins with potential mates, even she turned to online dating.
Patti doesn't date her clients. Nicholas More "Online dating kind of humbles you. You forget what it's like to be human again. You become a civilian and you have to take off your tiara so to speak," she tells Yahoo Celebrity. And for stars worried that their profiles will attract the wrong kind of candidates, Stanger says they shouldn't be concerned.
Unless you publicly announce you're using the service, like Duff did, your profile will likely blend in with the rest. I didn't deny who I was.
If somebody recognized me, I said, 'Yes, it's me. Feel out the motives: Stanger says she really got a handle on what a guy's motive was by feeling out what type of date that he wanted to take her on. In fact, I had to beg him to come on the show. But if a date keeps pushing to tag along to a VIP experience or asks for you to foot the bill, then you know they are pursuing you for the wrong reasons. There are very few millionaires on dating sites. And so the truth is: Can you live within a certain means?
So I put a number on it. When it comes to choosing the right online dating service, Stanger says for celebs to consider what they are specifically looking for in a mate. JDate , for instance, is ideal for those who are seeking out a Jewish partner.
I can date a farmer, I can date a Jewish guy, I can date a vegan, a dog lover. I can be specific. Stanger says that while a profile pic should be professional so as to garner attention, it's important to also include snapshots that help famous daters appear down to earth. And lastly, your pose should not be too Zoolander-ish. A simple smile will do. Be specific as to what you want: To make online dating a success, Stanger says celebs need to be honest about what they are looking for. I'm looking to spend the rest of my life with my one and only and we grow old together and we're sitting on the beach and watching the sunset,'" she explains.
And when it comes to finding love, don't be afraid to be sincere. There is going to be a guy that says to you, 'You know what? I want the same things as you,'" she adds. I love California and I want to stay in California. I'm looking for someone who loves to ski because I love to ski. One thing that Stanger notes is that a celebrity on an online dating service can tend to command a lot of initial attention, which could make the task of scouring through profiles to determine who to date overwhelming.
To remedy this situation, she recommends that stars call in reinforcements. Maybe your sister or brother help out," says Stanger. When it came to vocalizing what she wanted in a mate, even Stanger had to keep herself in check. So I would be kind of nasty in the old days and would be like, 'If you're 6 ft. If you're relaxed about the process and you're just doing this for fun and have no expectations, that's the secret sauce.
Try out a regular Joe: Stars are constantly introduced to people who work within their industry — other stars, publicists, and studio execs.
But many, according to Stanger, hop on dating services in the hopes of finding someone that is not in the limelight. She was fairly young when she got famous and she never experienced life like that," says Stanger who thinks that Duff may benefit from trying out somebody who isn't in showbiz.
According to Stanger, the key to a successful online dating experience is to really screen people before you meet for a one-on0one date. In order to get to the first date you gotta get to the phone. If you don't talk to him, you don't go out with him.
Texting is for teenagers and calling is for men," she states. Stanger also recommends limiting the amount of dates that celebs go on per week so that they don't burn themselves out. It's good to have one on the weekend and maybe one during the week. Maybe two times a week and go slowly," she explains.
But as more stars hop online to find love, the novelty of famous people having profiles should wear off. It's become the norm now," Stanger explains. And while famous daters may initially find their share of lunatic suitors harassing them online, Patti promises that if they follow the proper online dating etiquette it shouldn't be an issue.