Dating , deal breakers , monster exes I have a pretty low tolerance for bullshit. I can suss it out quickly, smack it upside the head and send it back to its momma fast. Introduced by mutual friends, PG and I hit it off right away. He was funny, charming, had a good job and was interesting. He was smart, too. Also, he had kick ass taste in music probably the only good takeaway from this entire situation.
My musical palette grew, thanks to him. The more we hung out thought I started to notice the frequent name-dropping of A. You see, they also worked together, side by side, would go to lunch together, run errands together, shop together, celebrate birthdays together, and in one story he told me, went on vacation together, all post-break up. I started to notice how often he mentioned her and it began to annoy me. So she married another man and had a baby with him.
I also began to notice how A seemed to have a personal crisis going on every time PG and I were going to hang, or had plans.
It seemed to happen every. At the first few mentions, I thought, How cool that this guy can be so mature and evolved by remaining friends with his ex! And then I started to wonder if maybe I was strange because I am not superclosebestfriendsforever with any of my exes. I had no idea why PG was telling me this while we were on a date. I had consulted with a guy friend on this, someone I have known for awhile. Male and female friendships are said to get trickier as you get older whoever They are, They say this and I agree to an extent.
But male and female friendships where you are dating someone new is a whole different ballgame. The best part is that he broke it off with me first. Turns out dating a guy who is that close to his ex is a dealbreaker for me. I much prefer one-on-one. I understand being friendly and courteous with an ex, but my personal boundaries and values do not fall in line with this kind of relationship. So in the future, it is best for me to be involved with someone who is more aligned with my way of thinking on this subject.
So adios, to all the superbestfriendswithmyex guys.