Top ten tips on how to date a firefighter Over the years married and single I had many women friends that wanted me to introduce them to firefighter friends, they wanted to date a fireman.
There were no shortages of eligible firefighters that I knew and they came in all shapes and sizes, old and young, nice and not so nice. I did introduce quite a few friends and arrange things like double dates when married and wingman dates when single. Some of these meetings were very successful and lead to long term dating, others not so much. So what did the failures have in common? I must post a warning here before I begin.
Know what you are getting into dating a firefighter. Their boys, the men they hang with have a huge impact on their lives and you will at first be dating him and his boys. We do want each other to find happiness and find a woman.
But that woman has to fit the group, nothing worse than a nightmare girlfriend to create havoc in the team, and if you piss off his friends he will be put in a position at some point of picking you or them, and if you do that it will end poorly. If it is going to work out they will adjust on their own, but pushing early is a deal breaker. Keep conversations light, avoid serious topics or overly intellectual subjects.
The easiest conversation is to have him talk about himself. Why is he a firefighter? What is the best part about the job? Has he ever been scared at a big call? Get to know the man, he wants to be accepted as the man doing the job, not as a character in a movie. This can happen in two ways, the best thing you can hope for is an invitation to visit the station. You might even suggest it in a non-stalker way. Tell him you would love to see where he works, or ask if you might bring some cookies by the station.
It will be after normal duty hours generally after the evening meal, when we have some down time. Understand the testosterone laden environment you will be entering, you will rightly or wrongly be evaluated on your attractiveness.
Nothing like making the night for a bunch of hardworking men by having some pretty women stop by the house, remember there could be more single guys there. But ask first, if he agrees, bring it on. If he is hesitant or unsure drop it and go by yourself. The other introduction to his guys will be the meeting out on the town.
We have our favorite watering holes and stomping grounds, once again be prepared for what is to come. For the most part firefighters are still gentlemen and will treat a lady with respect. But we also need a woman that has some back bone that can give it back, this is not a good environment for wall flowers. You will be tested by his alternates, this will be a feeling out to see how you handle yourself, it also gives him a chance to step in and rescue you.
You passed that test. Getting drunk will lead to merciless harassment for him the next time he is on duty. You will be ridiculed and he will be embarrassed. So have a good time but stay in control. So I thought I could fit more tips into one post but as always I am long winded in an effort to be through.
Published on April 16,