I am mostly concerned about her losing her parents. Will she still have her parents if she leaves on her own or will that be worse then being disfellowshipped excommunicated? I am looking for a loophole. I know that is not the right thing to do, but she loves me and I love her. As for the articles I have read on your site, I have read them thoroughly and I like what you said in one of your articles: Is it possible to go to an elder to ask for his blessing on our relationship?
Dear friend, You and your girlfriend are in a tough situation. It requires full commitment of your time, energy, resources, and loyalty. Partial loyalty is simply not acceptable in this religion. At any point in your relationship, the elders can intervene and command her to stop dating you. Are you prepared to face the potential consequences for converting under false pretenses and the harassment you would face if you do not measure up to all the demands of this religion?
Are you prepared to give the Watchtower your full loyalty and devotion and to force your future children into this system as well? Are you prepared to force your children to preach door-to-door instead of playing with their friends on the weekends, to do their Watchtower homework in addition to school homework in the evenings, and to attend Watchtower meetings instead of extracurricular school activities like music band and sports?
You will be required to report your monthly door-to-door time to the elders for evaluation and criticism if they think you could have done more. Are you prepared for the constant pressure to perform to their expectations? You will not be allowed to celebrate birthdays or holidays regardless of whether or not the holiday such as Thanksgiving has a pagan origin. Are you prepared to force your children to be excused from birthday and holiday celebrations at school?
Are you prepared to for your children to be teased by other children for being different? Are you prepared to turn down their holiday dinner invitations? You will not be allowed to vote, salute the flag or defend your nation against attacks by other nations. A Consumer Reports article estimated that blood transfusions save nearly 10, lives a day.
There are times when blood substitutes simply cannot work to save a life. Are you prepared to let your children die rather than give them a needed blood transfusion. Are you prepared to operate in such a conditional way with the friends and relatives you meet in the organization?
Are you prepared to follow and obey Watchtower doctrines and policies, without question? Only , are in the new covenant and have Jesus Christ as their Mediator. Only , will be in Heaven, are adopted, born-again as spiritual sons of God. Jesus is Michael the Archangel. This contradicts Hebrews 1: It did not work and within a year, he turned to drinking to numb the stress he was facing in his marriage.
A year after that, they were divorced and the children torn apart in a custody battle. Compromising the truth is never worth the damage!
So, the key for her ability to walk away without being shunned according to official Watchtower policy is based upon whether or not she was ever baptized into this religion. It is best to be prepared in case it happens. If they succeed in getting her back involved in this religion, it will not be long before they will strongly advise her to get baptized and you will be faced with losing her heart to this religion.
With rumors of wars in the world and a volatile economy, it would not take much for triggers of fear and guilt to arise in her heart. The Watchtower programs its followers to be ready for Armageddon by faithfully preaching the Kingdom message door-to-door and obeying all of its rules. It is your duty to make sure that before you get married, your girlfriend has been properly deprogrammed against Watchtower fear and guilt tactics.
Challenge her by saying something like this: Consider what Proverbs If not, you need to walk away from this dating relationship before you both get hurt. It contains the English words underneath the Greek text so you can compare Bible accuracy.
As you examine this literature together, your girlfriend will be shocked to learn the facts that the Watchtower is hiding from her: Read our website articles: It contains photocopies from original Watchtower publications so that your girlfriend will be able to see that none of our claims about the Watchtower Society have been taken out of context.
The resources listed above will aid you in accomplishing this task, but we also encourage you to read the Bible together verse-by-verse and to discuss what it means based upon the context. If your goal is to have a marriage free from the control of legalistic men and one that places the teachings of the Bible as supreme in your home, you will need to seek elsewhere for a blessing—preferably a Christian pastor who teaches the Bible verse-by-verse.
Many Protestant Christian churches do this and many have pre-marital counseling classes that would be beneficial for you as well. The following article will give you important guidelines to follow in finding a healthy, Bible-based church: