My name is Kate and I'm currently dating two guys An open relationship for us just mean that we are open If thats a new partner, if thats a one night stand every once in a while Just whatever feels right for either for us Jon and I started our relationship two years ago, and both decided we wanted to be together, but we didn't want to give our freedom.
Andrew and I met at the same training program and instantly connected Now we are still together and its been about two months Our relationship dynamic is a "V" so I'm the partner here and then I have two partners, but its not connected - they are not in a relationship, they are not dating anyone else, but if they meet someone and they decide to start, they are more than welcome to. It's really not about the sex. It's about being able to connect with people, and I would rather feel a little discomfort sometimes than feel like any of us are caged.
So this is Jon. Relationship are always something I was nervous about getting into. And so i really didn't think any woman would be open to the idea of being open and then I met Kate. She basically wouldn't have it any other way. When Kate first told me that she was seeing someone else, it was like a punch in the gut for a second.
It was just got "DAH! Like why is she looking outside of me, what else could she possibly need? And she goes over to the guy and she hugs him. And then I developed an immense amount of pride and love for myself. Because I was like, who else respond to that in this way?
Hey, how its goin? Honestly when kate told me she was in an open relationship, I was like "yes! The first time I met Jon was at a graduation, I honestly didn't know who he was at first, i just gave him a hug. You know, and then later I was like "oh, I think that's Kate's boyfriend. The emotions changed because I made a conscious decision to want to change them, because I really care about Kate, and I really care about the relationship.
My first time really connecting with you it was like, "oh hey, you are a human too. This open relationship has helped me in my other relationships in my life be more open and giving feedback when it's necessary I get jealous of Kate all the time, however the jealousy has started to diminish as I start to realize that jealousy was stemmed from ego KATE: The idea of closing yourself off to any other partner seems inherently unnatural, and why if it wasn't then why is cheating so common, why is divorce so common, why is the success rate of marriage so low if this is what's natural for us.
We are all coming from a place of love - It's not about sex, it's not about not wanting to commit. Its about wanting to experience love, and just understanding that we have the capacity to love multiple people. My personal opinion, I personally couldn't be in that relationship, but if thats works for them, more power to them!
Happy for you all.