Wait, you moved on too? Being constantly reminded of the person who broke your heart can be even harder. Back in the day, things were simpler. All you had to worry about was IRL run-ins, but now there are a thousand online minefields you have to avoid. Sure, you can block them on Facebook and Snapchat, but that won't stop them from popping up on the very last online platform you'd want to see them.
Tinder will let you see who likes you before you swipe. But it'll cost you. Obviously you have to figure your ex is looking to mingle, but you don't actually want to witness it in action. When you suddenly swipe across that familiar face, it can be disorienting and confusing. But don't worry, you're not alone. Whether it's been really bad, kinda awkward, or even a chance to reconnect, many people have shared this experience. Rekindling old flames For some people, seeing that their former love is ready to move on makes them realize maybe they aren't so ready.
Juliet, a 20 year old from New York, says finding her former boyfriend on Bumble was a surprise that made her rethink their breakup. So I had to snatch him back up. I swiped right and BAM we match. I immediately message him and then we intimately reconnected the next day. I've swiped past him four times on Tinder and three times on Bumble. She added, "At first I was really jarred and weirded out that I saw him, but I had to remind myself we were not together.
We ultimately wanted different things. So she decided to text him about it, and they ended up having pleasant conversation. Though Monica was happy she reached out, she says it's probably better to just acknowledge that you saw them and try not to overthink it, "It's like having to pretend you're strangers but knowing you're not. Kittenfishing is the newest online dating trend — and it's kinda just lying Though most people try to put their best foot forward on their profiles, some people straight up lie.
One person, who wanted to remain anonymous, said she saw her former boyfriend wasn't being completely honest on his profile. She said, "He listed his profession as 'consultant' when I knew damn well he was a waiter. He didn't respond, but he deleted his profile. Yikes, caught in the act. I literally chuckled and was like, 'Ah, so he hasn't found anyone either. It's not just me. No hard feelings when you're both in the same boat. No, I actually don't.
Here's why a breakup feels like a physical punch in the gut If you're worried about seeing your ex on Tinder, Bumble, or whatever app you're using to get some loving, don't stress too hard. At best, you'll swipe right past them and end up finding someone far better.
And at the very least, even if it causes some temporary shock, you'll end up with a good story.