Most reacted comment Hottest comment thread Notify of new replies to this comment - on Notify of new replies to this comment - off newest oldest most voted Nate Crowne I was hoping for some insight. We had been dating for 3 years. A year and a half of which was long distance. We have so much in common and shes perfect.
Ive dated alot of girls. So we got in a couple small fights December and January over the diatance but still resolved them. In February I send her gifts for valentines day.
Which she later said she liked. Literally days following that she tells me we should minimize communication because she has a boyfriend now. Which was weird because like I said there was no evidence prior. We continued to talk regardless a for a few weeks then she completely shut me out. Since then I wouldnt stop contacting her which was bad I know. I was in her city a few weeks ago and told her to call me so we could link. She called and as hard as I tried I couldnt help but ask several questions about her relationship.
She said she cant tell me when it became serious which was odd to me. Yet she said she met him last summer. I got made and she said shed call me back never did. I have yet to go no contact with her for long. This would also contribute towards her being able to detach herself from you so easily after the breakup. You should try going into no contact but not simply with the focus of winning her back, but more so to work on yourself and give both parties space.
After NC has ended, you can decide again whether you want to win her back or not and follow the steps in our articles for more help. Well anyway, he broke up with me almost three months ago. Life pretty much gotten in the way from a miscarriage from him losing his car and his place. As of right now he and her are doing long distance rebound and I want him back.
He told me he wants me to heal first and then he would be interested in pursuing a relationship with me. Is there any tips for me? Use this article for more guidelines to follow. She texted me 3 times during this period. The guy approached me later and we had a chat — now I know that they argue a lot and she was telling him about me much.
She joined us and quickly became upset and angry, she asked the guy to leave her — he refused, seemed needy and was trying to hold her. A few times he looked like he was about to leave, but eventually they both stayed for a while. When I went to grab another beer she was looking at me. Then we chatted some more.
I am lost, I was cool about them the entire time, but I want her back. Can I make it happen? She lives with him now as she is in conflict with her parents. I did continue to text with her, we switched to phone texts rather than FB messages. She is aware of my progress, mabe just not realised how much better I am now in full.
But she again sent a picture of a gift from her new boyfriend — a laptop. This is another time he gives her something expensive. I am under impression that he needs to give her expensive stuff because he has no value. This might have been a mistake. But believe me, when I spoke to her new guy he legitimately asked me how I handled her moods.
Like he was asking for advice. He can see everything we speak about via fb messages, not sure about other ways of communication. You could continue to be friends with her at this point, or actually go back to NC for now because it may still be too soon to make a move. On Wednasday she called me at midnight, asking if she could stay some nights she mentioned she got new job and it would be far away, but if I am correct where they live the communication is great.
She did not show up though. I wanted to, but she ended up going back home — at first I panicked, but later it occured me that I basically asked her to wait for me for an hour and move a few tram stops to meet me, so no hard feelings. Then we texted some more, she was asking me for advice again. I feel like going back to NC and waiting more will not bring me good this time. They already are together over a month and a half, the longer I wait, the closer they get together. I think that if I go about it right, they might break up soon, that is if she has feelings for me.
We broke up a month ago over trust issues I caused in the first year of us dating. But she has been seeing and talking with a guy she met at a party a few days after the break up. A few days ago they made it official, I guess. Honestly after I heard she slept with him at the party I went crazy and bugged her everyday for a few weeks. She would talk with me some, giving me mixed feelings and signals, both good and bad.
If I start this now, do you think I still have a chance? In the meantime since this guy may be a rebound, simply focus on improving yourself and applying no contact for the time being. I told her I was willing to try and she was not. I told her if she was just looking for an excuse to be single and date other people that I would at least like to know that because I feel I deserve that truth so i can move on.
I implemented no contact after that last interaction for a month. I then called her one day and she answered, we spoke for bit and it went really well so I asked if she wanted to meet for coffee quick to catch up. I waited another week and called again, same scenario we spoke for 20 minutes and it was going well, and we were both actually in the same area so i asked if she wanted to get that coffee but she had plans with a friend. So tentatively made plans for a few days later and when i texted her that morning to ask if she was still free that day, no response at all, completely ignored.
She may be confused between subconsciously wanting to meet you and her mind telling her not to, which has resulted in this mixture of negative and positive responses. In my opinion, it would be a good idea to take it slow with her, and try not to give her any pressure but only good memories at each point of contact you have with her for the time being, to let her decision become a little less conflicted. Yet she still text me and we still in touch until 2 weeks ago.
I read your article and I give her space like weeks. Before no contact she doing fine and tell me that she still loved me. Do I need longer the NC period? What should I do? Regardless, because she has responded negatively towards you, avoid pressuring her any further for now and instead focus on yourself. You could try again in about a week or two and see how she responds then. Me im wondering if i have a shot? Have a read through this article as we have a section on how to handle no contact if you live in the same household.
I spent a few months with here and she Came here too, about a month and a half ago we broke up and we have barely spoken since. She started dating a girl which after reading about rebounds I believe she is in one with her. I assume we will be around each other a lot so how do I go about winning her back? How should I approach winning her back when she gets here because I know she will still very much have feelings for me as I do for her I just need to get them out of her?
Be sincere, fun, caring, and if she genuinely misses you, there would be a high chance that her expressions would show. And a few weeks ago she said no and she never actually gave me an answer today. In october last year we had a serious fight and we partly broke up. In December we attempted to make it work again,only to learn he had been engaged to someone else and she was also pregnant. I asked him why he did that he said because i pushed him but he still wants me and he is going to break the engagement.
Todate there is still a lot of tension and i feel hurt. A number of times he had tried to show off but i didnt realise what was happening. During the break he had been sending the pregnant girl to drop my baby things he bought. We have been fighting a lot over this but he still cant let me go saying we are going to work it out. I even confronted the girl telling her he has been dating the both of us,he told to her that we had permanently broken up and she seemed to enjoy dropping my babys things as it proves an end to our relationship.
This time around he is not hiding the fact that he still wants me inspite of his situation with her,he played damb when i told him i was going to let the other girl know what has been going on.
What must I do? I still love him and somehow blame myself for what happened. Regardless of whether you pushed him away, his current actions of wanting the best of both worlds is wrong and should not be entertained.