For me, my time trying to find love in Philadelphia has been filled with some peaks and valleys. There were times I could meet different guys for dates in one week and be loving life. And while some of their answers are optimistic You mean you actually meet men in person? No dating horror stories…ever? But before we begin, let me just say this: Dating takes work and time and money and creativity and humility and honesty, and here we all are, soldiering on.
How do you meet your dates? Leah, 25, Washington Square West: Melissa, 26, Delaware County: Apps or in person. Tinder — there is generally more immediacy on the app and when conversation gets going it flows pretty well. About 5 years, my friends talked me into Tinder. It was hilarious while it lasted, but nothing more than guys just looking for a one-night girl. Most of my friends have messed around with Bumble. I did finally cave once and tried it.
To be honest, I am so over the apps! In general, I prefer Bumble. In a world full of online options, I want to know who is really interested, and Bumble does nothing to help this or the aloof attitude from single dudes out there. I have had some fun dates from Tinder, but that is really all it is: Do you have any go-to spots or activities? The guy usually suggests going out, I usually vote for drinks for the first date. My go-to spot right now is Mission Taqueria!
You can never go wrong with their spicy margaritas. I think meeting for coffee or drinks is a safe first date. I think either the guy or girl can suggest the first date! And I think it shows a lot of confidence in a female if they suggest the first date. At first, we started saying hi to each other and after a while, we were having in depth conversations in the elevator.
No matter where you go on a first date, you want somewhere with an easy exit if necessary! If I have met the person before, dinner for sure. I also love to play games when out with a guy. I also think that with some apps, like Bumble, the girl is making the first move, so I feel somewhat obligated to suggest a date. It can go either way as far as who suggests meeting up, but somehow I always end up choosing where we go. How do you handle paying for the first date?
I have to be traditional with this answer and say the guy! I do however, think the girl should at least offer to pay for things. Or if you go out one night or to happy hour, at least offer to pay for a round!
You have to show you respect him also and can hold your own. I always offer to pay the tip, though! I usually offer to split, but generally the guy pays and I take it as a sign that he is interested if he does.
Any dating horror stories? Lots of talking about exes. I once had a guy tell me his ex was an angel sent from God then hoped maybe I was one as well.
I also love finding out that they are in an open relationship or polyamorous. I spent the evening consoling him. One time, I was getting drinks with a guy, and we were having a great time!
Abruptly towards the end of my second drink, he asked if he could show me something on his phone. However, when he slid over and went for the kiss, I was totally thrown off. Also, this happened when I was twenty-five, not fifteen. Recently went out with a guy who was a total narcissist, talked about himself the entire time! The worst kind of guy. What one word would you use to summarize dating in Philadelphia?