Chicago, IL Selective Search is not your regular dating site. As a non paying member I do not have the option of scrolling through members while the men have that option since they are the bread and butter for the dating site.
I normally have to wait to be contacted by one of the professionals with a potential partner that is interested in meeting with me. I am provided with personal information about my future potential partner and it's my decision if I am interested in meeting with that potential partner or not.
You never know when you will get contacted. Could be 1 month or 1 yr. Need to be prepared for that. Overall my experience has been good. The men that are members on this site truly are looking for long term relationships. That is a personal choice the woman needs to decide on her own.
Clearly the pickier you are the smaller your pool of potential partners gets. Be as honest as you can and they will figure out a way to get you matched up with the correct partner. Alina and her team are just awesome. I joined as a non-paying member, so was never sure if I would be contacted at all. But they met with me and conducted an in person interview, and continued to reach out to ensure my profile and information were accurate.
I signed up for this service when living in DC and they continued to keep in touch and work with me when I moved to LA. As a non-paying member, it's true that the paying client's preference is priority. That said, the only way they are successful is if they find good matches for paying clients, which requires that both people are interested and a potential match.
While the men I was matched with were not as physically attractive as the men I usually date, and while I wasn't romantically interested in anyone I went out with, I never felt like any date was a waste of my time. I met several really lovely men, went on great dates, and I always had the option to say "yes" or "no" before an introduction was never made.
Even if no romantic sparks fly, spending a day or evening with a smart and interesting gentleman is a win. So for now, I have agreed to remove the original review that I wrote regarding Selective Search. Not because it isn't true but because I have been contacted somewhat relentlessly by one of the owners of the company.
They have committed to me that they will do whatever they can to find out who is responsible for disseminating my personal information that I shared confidentially with SS. I was greatly disappointed and felt violated by Selective Search.
If anyone wants details you may contact me at ssviolated gmail. Since I reinstated this review, things even got weirder. Selective Search hired a lawyer, Hal Wood of the Chicago firm Horwood, Marcus and Berk probably related to the owner , who called me several times. Wood, although pleasant enough, played the tough lawyer routine, talking about how the review was unfair and hinting that Selective Search was "reserving its right to sue.
Selective Search apparently likes to make threats, but not only won't act on them, but they actually offer to pay money to its unhappy clients. I've been a scout for Selective Search for about 2 years from San Francisco and have nothing but great feedback about the matchmakers in Chicago and the entire process! As a scout, I would meet with the lovely ladies to ask them more detailed question and really help give the matchmaker a feel for what the ladies are looking for.
No, it is not just about what the paying client wants and it's not impersonal, there is true care when you are in the business of human relationships. I've been able to make great connections and met some extremely smart, beautiful, interesting women so I believe that their vetting and matching is of high caliber. At first, I had no idea what to expect from a boutique matchmaking company, but now, I recommend to all my single girlfriends to sign up. I've directly worked with Eileen most of the time, she is beyond excellent and relentlessly detail oriented.
They call their matchmakers, "Vice Presidents" and then when I spoke with my "Vice President" in the Chicago-land area, she kept cutting me off during the call, mentioned a male stereotype like it was nothing, and said they have almost no women clients. They somehow collect women to submit what she called, "a resume" for review Sounds a lot like another type of companionship service Then I get a LinkedIn invite with 24hrs?! I am a woman that used Selective Search about 3 years ago as I began dating again after a divorce.
I filled out my online application and received a phone call about a month later. I was interviewed by SSL and the team helped me understand the process and that a gentleman was interested in meeting me after viewing my profile.
From there a great guy called me and we began dating. Flash forward a few years and I'm now married to that fabulous man. I loved the SSI concept because it was like an executive search firm.
Eileen at SSL took the time to understand what the gentleman was looking for and also made sure they knew what was important to me. They made sure that we both had an honest look at the other person.
Anyone who has done online dating can attest that part of the issue is that people don't fill out their profiles in an honest manner. SSL matched me with someone that was like minded right in my home town. I could not believe that this fantastic man was looking for me and I wouldn't have been able to meet him without SSL helping us.
He is kind, thoughtful, successful, family oriented and I love that I get to spend the rest of my life with him. I highly recommend this service both to men and women that are looking to cut through the time consuming process of getting to the right person. Let SSL do the leg work for you. It's what they do best. I found about selective search several years ago in Chicago Magazine, I went on their website, filled in application, got en e-mail that somebody is going to contact me, schedule some appointment and never heard anything from them.
Selective Search introduced me to my Soulmate by the 3rd introduction. They took into consideration what we were both looking for and it has been perfection for many years now. Selective Search gets my Highest recommendation on every level. They were absolutely Professional and Conscientious.
They spoke with me before and after my dates and I felt completely supported. I am living the dream, ;love life that was once just a fantasy I think that to find love and the right relationships you have to be proactive in life and that's why I chose to join Selective Search.
I submitted my profile and 6 months later I was contacted to let me know there was a potential match for me. The wait for me seemed like it was long, but worth it! There clients are very well selected and with high profiles so you can't expect massive amounts of guys waiting to be matched! After this they called me regarding their client, and that same week I had my first of many dates with him I thought fairy tales were only found in books and dreams, I can't imagine my life without my prince charming, he is everything I always looked for and more!
I would never have been able to meet him if it is not for Selective Search. I've had multiple experiences working with the staff at Selective Search and they could not be more professional, dedicated, friendly, and easy to work with.
They have your best interests in mind and work hard to set you up with your dream match. I highly recommend their services and am looking forward to working closely with them again now that I'm back in the US!
Nicole is the best. The team at Selective Search is committed to making the perfect match. I skeptically joined after reading the advertisement in Sky Magazine. It is difficult to meet and connect with like- minded men looking for a monogamous relationship in a world of speed- dating, online dating, dating apps, etc.
The Selective Search team screens very thoroughly I had an in- person interview with the matchmaker she took photos and also verified my identity. That ensures everyone is being honest-- unlike my experience with online dating The screening was successful because I was introduced to an incredible man who I would have otherwise never met.
That introduction blossomed into an amazing long term committed relationship. Job relocations and long distance inevitably resulted in the end of our romantic relationship. However, we will always be close friends and we owe that to Selective Search. As I celebrate a year in a new city, as a single executive, I would have no hesitation in meeting a man that the Selective Search team considers an ideal match for me! The match makers at Selective are friendly, warm, welcoming, and really make you feel that your personal happiness is of the utmost priority.
Their vetting process is thorough which ensures that you will be matched with your most compatible suitor. This allows you to meet people with congruent long-term goals and you can begin the relationship with more clarity, presence and ease of mind. All of the lovely gents I met through Selective were intelligent, respectful, kind, and fun!
I am still very thankful to Barbie and all of her lovely staff for all of their efforts and would recommend Selective to anyone that is truly committed to finding their soul mate, life partner, or spouse. After coming across an article about Selective Search I decided to check it out.
I filled out their online application and was contacted about 2 months later. I met with Eileen for an interview. She was wonderful and a complete professional. Soon after I had my first date, then several months later another date. While neither of the men where "the one" for me, they were both complete gentleman and all around great guys, successful, attractive and relationship minded. Eileen was amazing during the whole process and was very attentive. Selective Search is a great company, upscale and professional.
I highly recommend them! These all seem to be very recent reviews from reviewers without a photo.