Great advice except for the fact that it does not work. If I were to follow your advice I would have no relationship at all. October 10, at 9: Soja — Take heart! You have not been taught how to lie, trick and manipulate. Just being yourself is going to land you your great guy because you are NOT going to play stupid games, but honestly let him know that you are interested. October 13, at There are no tricks to attraction.
If a woman wants the attention of a man, his pursuit and desire there are no tricks, lies or manipulations involved. You can be yourself but you have to be really, really good at letting other people know who that person is.
May 24, at 5: Clearly you yourself have no idea how you and your fellow women work and what you respond to. He just knows what works. Educate yourself before you post stuff like this, please! This kind of stuff misleads men and women. Best of luck sweetheart. I think there are different ways people can receive and apply advice. If other people like it, and it helps them then that is wonderful.
I know for a fact that attraction is what motivates human beings to initiate contact. Since we attract who we are being positive, approachable, helpful, and open will attract men who are confidant and willing to pursue women.
If you never attract men, start by deciding that you want to. Think about the type of men that you want to attract then be open to their attention. November 14, at Just as well were successful just on two diff spectrums he travels around the world just as i do, by our srlves seems as though. He was in a magazine as an eligible bachelor. I was just curious as to see if I would get picked out of thousands of applicants for this bachelor to meet.
So I wrote in. Surprisingly he chose me as one of the women he wanted to meet. Due to my nursing schedule and school I was not able to attend his bday. Aaaahhhh November 22, at 9: Of course you should try! What I think is so funny is that most single people believe that love is luck but when something lucky happens to them they doubt it.
He chose you and contacted you. Think about what you want and if this man fits that ideal. If he does then pursue a friendship with him. Get to know him. New opportunities might bring him to Cali or you to New York. Be open minded and believe. Believe in the serendipity of life.
Stay connected to him without expectation and let the courtship unfold. I hope this was helpful. December 11, at 1: I wish there was so you could really let this all sink in for you. What works for you, works for you. December 12, at 5: I completely agree with you.
I know the word pursue has different connotations, but the point is that the relationship should be reciprocal. I appreciate your comment, you made some great points, and thank you for reading. July 23, at 2: August 27, at 1: Ever thought of that? Not all guys like to pursue me given. What proof do you have that YOU should be pursued, that you are worth more than the man?
Sorry your argument is sexist and degrading of men. Relationships are all about women seeking attention and men who are slaves to this. August 27, at Scientifically speaking the choice of partnership has fallen predominantly on men more than women. I understand however that the language of the post is vague and phrases out of context could seem misleading.
February 7, at 4: Why do they have to get left in the dust and live life alone because of their condition?! The funny thing is you women seem to want your cake and eat it too.
You want equal rights, well this is what comes with it. End of discussion Chris says: The reason men are not chasing women is because we have discovered that relationships are about feeding the attention of women and being slaves to their needs. A man can NEVER feel good about himself, because he is always making the women feel good about herself the whole time.
July 14, at 7: Frankly, you are carelessly spewing sexist and archaic ideologies that succumb to bullshit gender roles and binaries. Please, these are not the kinds of messages that should be sent to women.. Many men find it incredibly refreshing and alluring to be pursued by a confident woman who is comfortable enough in her own skin to take charge of her life.
Little girls and women of all ages alike need to be encouraged to go for what they want, rather than be told to passively stand by and hope it works out or rely on others to take action for them. July 14, at 3: I feel that everyone has the right to decide what works best for them. Thank you for both the article and this comment.
I think you are getting negative responses because you are speaking the truth. If someone wants you in his life, he will put you there and if not, well why waste the.
This article is the truth of the dating world we now live in. Much love and beauty to ya August 20, at September 3, at 2: And when a guys is ready, willing, able and available to want a relationship he will then go for it. Even the shy ones. Boys have been interested since they were little even sending Valentines in class. Men do move slow at times and I myself am accustomed to getting impatient.
We just cannot take the ball and start doing it for them. To me, things get way out of balanced. Allow a man to be just that…A MAN. September 3, at 7: You are absolutely right. July 14, at 4: Your words only become credible for me when you become married.
I hope not to be disrespectful, but expressing my thoughts. July 15, at My advice is intended for single men and women who have trouble meeting potential dates and building deep connections.
The real and more appropriate question is: Am I successful in my pursuits and the answer, to both, are yes.