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After about a month online I started texting someone and we seemed to get along. I drove across town, waited at the restaurant where I had made reservations. We met had a nice meal a few drinks , after we took a walk around and talked some more. At the end of the evening she said that she had a nice time and kissed me then said she wasn't really ready to date. I wished her well meant it and went home a few hundred dollars poorer.
I then deleted my account and haven't dated since. It is the owner. I fell for a girl that was riddled with baggage from her childhood, divorce, etc.. It may be shallow, but I know what I like and what I feel will never amount to anything. Online dating also ruins otherwise decent women, I believe. Women who normally would be quite modest and grounded with their value in a relationship have their egos so overinflated because of the sheer amount of messages they receive.
I managed to make it to a couple of dates but most middle aged men are looking for women with crane legs and Rapunzel hair. I have been happy in my own skin and can make turn heads when I am out and about but when "online dating" people seem to chase a dream that doesn't exist.
Middle aged Men in general run on the wings of hopes that they can still pull a glamour model just because they are financially secure but nothing special about them. I am a plus sized woman and was always been honest about that. I even joined sites particularly for curvy people and guess what!? When they hear that most head for the hills. The bottom line, online dating is not for me. Good luck in your search people. I have 4 kids with hubby and I was a single mother when I met him.
I had a lot of fun reminiscing about past dating experiences, despite my tone, lol. So, assuming she met someone right away and they got married right away which is highly unusual , she had 5 kids in a period of 8 years.
Not impossible, of course, but highly unusual. Additionally, assuming all that, she still somehow spends an inordinate amount of time with her "hubs," as evidenced by this somewhat angry retort to what she perceived to be -perhaps correctly so - a condescending post: To this day i have been on few dates simply because the sheer disgust with the whole approach and is akin to diving head first into a buzzsaw.
The only thing that works in terms of protecting and advocating for yourself is being straight-up on who you are. I should write my own blog about it. First line, I read your profile and we have a lot in common. So tell me about yourself, what do you do for fun, Really?
Can't plan a date but they are extremely romantic. Heck, can't even manage a meet for coffee. Second date should be sexual, huh? And it goes on Telephone dating companies you would pay them for the opportunity log into their own separate phone system for women it was free of course and check out profiles.
It seems that with with every improvement in technology simply highlights the utter shallowness of people. With all these online dating problems I can see why it's such A pain In the ass to find a relationship. I use to go on pof and I thought I was going to be on there forever until weeks later I found an interesting profile.
I decided to message him. I know it sounds risky but I gave it a shot even people with pictures still lie so doesn't make much of a difference.
Anyways he replied back to me we stayed on pof chatting for a few days until we exchanged emails. Than we started talking on the phone and we met up a week later. I knew it was going to be good. I even deleted my account because I felt the chemistry on the phone when we talked and I knew he was the one.
It was just something i felt. Well let's just say he was handsome as hell. He told me he didn't have a profile pic because he wanted to weed out the people that only cared about looks.
Ever since then we have been in a relationship for 5 years. We were friends first than slowly it developed to something more. I know dating online or offline can suck.
Just don't give up. Many comments on here would indicate that it hasn't. How could you have 5 kids? That doesn't make sense. Tried for three months on 2 different sites, very depressing. Sending messages to fake profiles and old profiles they never delete.
Women who aren't really there to date, just "window shopping" , scams and catfishers. Men pretending to be women and women who's first question is "what is your income? Not very good odds. The real odds are probably lower. None of my past relationships online have worked and I broke a vow that I will never get into another long-term relationship because I know the results will not only break their heart, but it will break mine too and depress me.
I've possibly just shoved a lot of "love" into her face saying how much she means to me and other things, so it might break her heart badly. She is going through a lot, and dumping her now would be bad.
But I still don't wish to hurt her emotions in the future. Because that'll leave a mark on me. And I have a few friends online that know how much I've said I care about her and how much she has told them how much I matter to her.
So I will be hated by around 7 friends. And lose at least 3 because of it. Any suggestions on what to do? I need actual advice for once. Well thought out messages never returned, not even a polite not interested.
Fake profiles, old photos, women there for an ego boost, cheating wives and Women who ask how much I make. I'm looking for a relationship not to hire a prostitute!
If you ask me how much I make I'm pretty well off you get a "sorry, I'm not interested" reply. I finally meet someone who I think has similar interests and when we meet she's about pounds heavier than her picture. Um, what part of I like to kayak, rock climb and compete in long distance cycling makes you think I want a women who can't climb a flight of stairs without stopping for a break?
Women who set up a date, know we are going somewhere nice and then to a show after , then cancel at the last min.
Women who date multiple men at the same time! What kind of home were you raised in? It means I'm looking for a real long term relationship including possibly marriage and starting a family. I'm a tall, fit, handsome guy with multiple degrees a really nice home and a very successful business. On one popular site I was listed as the second most contacted man in my area a large city.
It was still a bad experience I won't repeat. If I can't get a decent date online I feel sorry for the average Joe. It's missing all the intangibles of sexual attraction and chemistry. I wasted so much time messaging hundreds of women only to scrape together the occasional date which almost immediately I knew was a mistake.
Had I met these women in person I would have known instantly that I wasn't interested. People have been getting together for thousands of years by meeting face to face. Social media and online is only contributing to social retardation.
Look at the nerds who create all the online sites that people are supposed to interract on. I gather most of them would be unbearable in a one on one situation.
And yet they have sold us a bill of goods that we are supposed to meet and socialize with people on their sites. Been there and done that. The majority of people today meet their partner online. I met my boyfriend on a dating site Hily!! Hily's the perfect dating site for anyone reading this sad article and nodding their head, because you will not experience the kind of flaky, weird guys described here.
I've only had good experiences.