BlockedUnblock FollowFollowing Gen X, single black female on her search for love in the modern world. I go on more rants than dates. I am a bit of a mystic. Anywho, towards the end of my last soul-crushing, pseudo-relationship, I visited a tarot card reader. I went as a sort of cleansing ritual before the turn of the new year. She began our session began by handing me the cards and instructing me to split them once or twice. Then she spread the cards in rows across the table and began her interpretations.
Predicting the end of our love affair might have been a no-brainer. I was more impressed that something in the cards showed a lack of potential suitors to replace him. She could see that my pool of men on dating websites had been extraordinarily odd, unsuitable or virtually non-existent. The upside, it eliminates all the swipe rights that fall flat.
The downside, most of those matches were in New York and extended as far as Texas and California. Did I mention that I live in Philadelphia? Online dating can be like starring in a twisted mash-up of Groundhog Day and 50 First Dates. I was meeting the same types of guy over and over again. Her survey concluded there were 11 primary categories of men drawn internet dating. Eleven seems to me a rather generous number, but here we go: The Flake- I no longer bother contacting any guy who cops out of his filling out a full profile.
You are most likely to end up in a situation like this: I suppose we should get together some time soon. Maybe one day next week? My schedule is kind of crazy. The Player- With so many choices, how can he pick just one and why should he? Not the ideal situation, but he was giving me that sexy, Sendhil Ramamurthy vibe. Besides, used to live in DC and had some friends there I wanted to visit.
After a few exchanges, we decide to move off OKCupid and exchanged emails every day for over a week. Then he sent this email: I am not ready for committed relationship; let me know what you think.
I guess all that pressure to be in an exclusive relationship was weighing you down. Even before we got a chance to meet. My experiences with younger men defy all logic. The Lonely Bachelor — After his long-term relationship ended he is clueless on how to live life again as a single person. Maybe his divorce is almost final and he wants you to fill the empty spaces until he feels whole again. His next girlfriend must be beautiful with a brick-house body and give him amazing sex every day.
Is that so much to ask? When I was on Match, I noticed one guy who looked at my profile several times without ever sending me a message. We matched on every point of our criteria right down to our favorite movies. Any feedback would be helpful.
You look attractive and interesting. I like your view on religion and what you do. It looks like what I might expect to see after 5 years married, not 1st time dating. I sincerely wish you the best of luck. Im at least gladdened by your question that there are people of good faith on here.
He deserves a young hottie because: D None of the above. If he cared about his social life half as much as his abs, he would stop pretending to meet women on the internet. His initial approach may be standard enough and then BAM! He writes something supremely perverted. He can go from zero to fuckboi in 60 seconds or less.
Why waste time with niceties? Once I made a lunch date with a guy I met on Zoosk and he called the night before to confirm our plans. How about Midtown Diner? Sorry, sorta frisky tonight it seems. If it were earlier it was Have you been drinking?
But I like that you could tell something was amiss. I have a boner again. Are these men so offended by the mere thought of seeing a black woman show up in their matches that they need to banish us altogether? I understand we all have preferences. Then there are the black males who decide to take a personal affront to my acceptance of interracial dating. Plantation life all over again. He wants to be in a relationship even if he seems a little hesitant at times.
The truth is, as much as we complain about online dating, too few of us make a concerted effort to meet people by any other means. Singles events are always far outnumbered by females. I almost never meet attractive men doing these things. I imagine there has to be some place where guys must be tired of having a sausage-fest.
Maybe you can help a sister out.