An extensive outline of the Original Edition is available at Listology. The Ten Commandments of Dating: Thomas Nelson, A very practical read, obviously, and one that I actually recommend. Now to the disclaimer. I personally have hesitations with recommending books like this for a couple reasons all of which are exhibited in this book. That is a predisposition for any book of this genre. Sometimes I wish we would focus more on the driving truths of reality, and then apply them to practical situations, rather than address practical situations from which we grab at various truths of reality.
Second, the Bible is often proof-texted after-the-fact. In other words, the principles are decided upon, and then Scriptures are sought out to substantiate the pre-determined principles. Third, and most honestly, I just like books that go deeper, and practical dating books are not in that category.
I believe it can be very helpful for those struggling in the world of dating. Here are the commandments, with very brief summary notes. Thou Shalt Get A Life. Love yourself the way God loves you. Thou Shalt Use Your Brain. Thou Shalt Be Equally Yoked. A principle from 2 Corinthians 6: Thou Shalt Take It Slow. Bottom line, relationships take time.
Thou Shalt Set Clear Boundaries. And where is the balance? Boundaries, ultimately healthy and necessary, but delicate and difficult to discern. You experience wholeness, higher self-esteem, avoid dangerous or deadly diseases, and you ultimately value your body. Perhaps one of the most important chapters in the book. Any abuse, physical, verbal, emotional, or sexual, ought to result in an immediate break-up.
There is no reasonable defense or explanation that can support any form of abuse—ever. Other warning signs are addictions, disrespectfulness, emotional baggage, denial, and irresponsible behavior. Thou Shalt Choose Wisely. Do not be fooled by externals, or blinded by sex.
Look for great character, someone who is faithful, honest, committed, forgiving, and generous giving. And be sure to check in with your friends, their other relationships with friends and family , and give it lots of time. Thou Shalt Take Action.