Everything in life is a transaction Whether you like it or not, a significant amount of our behaviour is influenced by the opposite sex. Before I get into it, I would like to state a few disclaimers, before awon complainers come to aggravate me with their issue Olympics. I do not know what women think, nor will I claim to.
Anything suggested will be via witness statements, experiences and common sense. Back to the matter: I believe you can implement some of the basic principles of economics to the world of dating. The main crux of this post is to highlight how important it is to be aware of yourself and the world, identify what is in your best interest, and implement it. This is the first part of erm… Yeah this is part 1. Firstly, I believe one of the biggest issues is the toxic level of delusions society has pumped into our brains.
In a similar vein, some ladies believe their prince charming is waiting on one knee in the rain somewhere with a rose in his mouth for them. They will tell you they deserve it. I always ask people why? Do you know what deserve means? Do something or have or show qualities worthy of a reaction which rewards or punishesas appropriate: Notice the word "privilege"; nobody owes you anything outside your family members.
We have free will as human beings to like whoever we please and dislike whoever we want to. It is not by force for you to like me nor vice versa. Furthermore, it is important to know your market value. Unless you want to date and attract yourself, how you come across to other human beings is pivotal. This probably differs with regards to gender. From the dawn of time, due to most of employment being manual labour and a cheeky bit of sexism , men were the earners of income.
Although society is slowly moving away from this, the social conditioning is still there. Like it or lump it, lads, that is reality.
With regards to women, physical appearance is probably the most significant factor in their market value. Just look around you, the media is consistently forming a hierarchy of women primarily by their appearance before their achievements.
A universally accepted stunning woman probably has more market value than an extremely wealthy or smart woman. Probably not, but unfortunately neither is life. LvG had me watching Phil Jones take set pieces; I feel your pain. You must know your strengths and your weaknesses. Once you are aware of this, compare this to what is in the market. The type of person you are going for, do they demand what you have to offer?
For example, a guy who wants to date supremely attractive models should probably assess his social status and bank account before he starts chucking the word "deserve" around.
I believe one of the problems with human beings is the complete lack of self-evaluation. I mean it wasn't as if David Cameron drafted legislation that they should select those people to date or risk death by machine gun! There is no way that, in perhaps ten years of dating, the problem is always somebody else's.
The only constant in all the data is YOU. Using a bit of common sense, we can estimate the type of character traits that a good number of human beings would be drawn to. For example, being able to make somebody laugh is likely to increase your value, as we like to be entertained.
It is no fluke how some of the most popular and rich people on this planet are great entertainers: Beyonce, Stephen Curry, Angelina Jolie, etc. On the flip side, some character traits are likely to reduce your value. For example, being untrustworthy will decrease your market value. If someone cannot trust you, it will only be a matter of time before that bond you have with them expires.
Don't let social media deceive you in this But hey you will get retweets and likes so it's worth it! The issue with market value is that we have been hoodwinked into believing it is irrelevant, because we are all fantastic so anyone would be lucky to have us. This may be true for some people, but it will be less true for others.
The reality is the guy with the muscly frame, decent amount of dosh and charm will create more demand than an unemployed, eighteen stone couch potato. I have a theory that, on average, males are slightly more aware of their market value than women due to social conditioning. Males are more likely to take part in various sporting activities from a young age; sport is probably the initial teacher of market value. Some kids will be better than others at a specific sport; they will obtain different roles and in turn get varied levels of attention and praise.
Combine with this the tradition that the man is to pursue the woman, and men are probably more used to dealing with rejection- this is basic mathematics. If we compare this with how women have been raised in society, their self-esteem is carefully handled in most cases.
We are built to reassure women and make them feel special. Do I have a problem with this? However, the implementation of this is so overboard that it has caused delusion.
You must look at yourself; look at your physical self and your character. Is it a fair trade? Am I selling myself short or am I going to buy a Ferrari with Converse money in my account? Not too long ago, Nokia was the hottest phone around town. Now, if someone mugged you, they would sooner steal your oyster card before a Nokia phone. Actions such as working out to improve your physique, paying more attention to fashion, and working on your bad character traits can improve your market value.
Improve your market value, and the likelihood of you obtaining the partner you would like increases.