Younger men willing prey for 'cougars' on the hunt Independent. However, some ladies are ignoring antiquated prejudices and are going in for the kill. What better way to feel good about your sexual behaviour than to take comfort from the stars! In a recent Playboy interview, actor Ewan McGregor admitted he lost his virginity to an older woman when he was just a teenager.
But the next thing I knew, she had taken control of the situation," says Ewan of his fling with a "complete stranger". The Scot reckons she was a "good teacher" and hopes the lady realises she taught him everything he knows, adding: Demi Moore is 43 this year, but is still one of Hollywood's most beautiful women, has a boyfriend aged 27, Ashton Kutcher, and is the new face of fashion house Versace.
Another actress, Cameron Diaz, sent the world's gossip columns into overdrive when she started dating pop sensation Justin Timberlake, who at 24 is eight years her junior. American sex and relationships columnist Valerie Gibson calls women like Diaz and Moore "cougars".
Originating in Vancouver, the term was intended as a put-down for older women who frequented late night fleshpots with the sole purpose of sleeping with anything that moved. In , the term's derogatory connotations are fading. Gibson, who is married to a man 15 years her junior, describes the cougar thus: And she's very sexy.
They both get their rocks off by sleeping with younger men - and do so without apology. There is even a website that celebrates the species and fights against female ageism, www.
She avoids the entanglement of a relationship in favour of the freedom of the hunt. It seems that dating older women is a regular enough occurrence in Ireland but not altogether politically correct. I spoke to men who had dated older women in the past but ultimately settled for a woman within their own peer group.
Irish men seem to view getting intimate with an older woman as something of an education rather than a long-term aspiration. In a sense it seems that both sexes use each other for sexual kicks.
One man in his mids admits: It's easier to score an older woman than a younger one when you're that age. I was drinking illegally and I spotted this older lady. She looked around 35 or 36, but she was very attractive - not wrinkly or grey. She brought me back to her place and we did the business. A guy in his 30s recalls an experience with an older woman who wouldn't take no for an answer: I was sitting beside this woman. She stuck her head in my face and started snogging me. She was 48, but her thin lips were such a turn off.
In the kafuffle she fell out of the taxi and landed with her arse in the air. The majority of men their own age are either married or no longer alive. Men don't live as long as women - so women have to go to where the men are.
What option is left other than going for a younger man? As a nation, sexual liberation is really not our forte. A club near Leeson Street is dubbed 'Grab a granny night'.
They look like mutton dressed as lamb. A mate of mine goes there because he knows he's guaranteed some action. Ireland is still a sexist nation. The woman in the relationship is often berated. I spoke to a young man who prefers to date older women. Even when I was 15, I had a girlfriend who was Older women know what they want in bed and aren't afraid to ask for it. They seem to have more energy.
They're virile and forward. I went out with an older sales rep in the office and for months everyone called her Mrs Robinson. She says it was not for want of conversation or settling down, but just for fun. In this relationship she taught the younger man about what women want. She believes all men should date older women in order to understand our sexual needs and desires. They still dress like 18 and year-olds and can look pretty damn hot - a bit like yummy mummies, but not quite," she laughs.
Now 32, Sexton admits that she has dated lots of younger men and has no regrets. Because they know you know more about sex than they do, they're willing to take instruction in the bedroom. They haven't picked up any bad habits yet and you can train them as you wish," she says wryly.
By and large, increased self-sufficiency in the fairer sex has thrust older women to the forefront in terms of sexual independence. Younger men are attracted to them because they are sexually experienced and confident. The fact that older women aren't huge advocates of settling down is also a contributing factor. For years the term 'toy boy' was thrown around lightly. Maybe it's now time for us to get with the programme, bin ageism and open our minds.