Strikingly different from other ladies her age, yet similar in certain ways, an overly independent woman is a fascinating person to be with. This MenWit article enlists 25 things you need to know before dating an independent girl.
MenWit Staff Last Updated: Feb 28, Quick Tip: Be independent Independent women want someone in their life who is just as challenging as they are. Have a life beside calling or texting the lady 24X7, and she'll get back to you. Cling to her like a leech; she'll drop you like a hot potato. The word 'independent' has been badly misunderstood and misconstrued to the point of stating that 'being overly independent' is a way to show negative attitude and boost one's ego.
Being independent does not mean you are literally and completely not dependent on anyone. At the end of the day, man is a social animal, and we all need each other.
Independence helps you establish your own identity, carve your niche, and become self-reliant. It helps you manage yourself, love yourself, and to a great extent, to be in control of yourself. Since time immemorial, the Pavlovian circumstance has been played out in the form of an earning man and a supportive wife.
Despite the changing times, some societal prejudices remain the same. Perhaps this is why the term 'independent woman' is sometimes frowned upon. That said, independence applies to both men and women. That it is associated more with the female population, nowadays, is possibly due to the preconceived notions over the years.
Whatever that may be, irrespective of the gender, independence is a virtue, a quality to be cherished. You have to keep certain pointers in mind if you plan to have her in your life. The points mentioned below will give you some tips you need to know prior to dating an independent woman.
She likes to be alone. No, she is not a loner. She loves herself, and she loves what she does. You are an important part of her life, but you are not her life. Being alone is something she revels in; it is her comfort zone. She loves the solitude. She is not accustomed to frills. She is not the kind who will expect you to call or text her every minute; in fact, chances are, she might despise that behavior.
What's more, she is not used to being taken care of. While she may appreciate it if you are doing things for her, she may not like it very much either, she'll feel like you are bestowing a great favor upon her. Do not feel offended by this attitude; it's just that she knows how to take care of herself and is not one of those people who need all the fluff in the world.
She is very ambitious, enthusiastic, and open to change. She does not work exclusively for money, she loves to use her brain, skills, and creativity. She loves to work and cherishes the feeling of being independent. She works because she wants her own career, her own identity. She is also open to change and is very enthusiastic about it. You are unlikely to experience a dull moment when she is around, because she is full of adventure and excitement.
She can do her stuff alone. This is one of the advantages independent women possess. She is independent in every sense. She does not need you to drive her anywhere, do her laundry, take her out to dinner, or anything else. She can clean up for herself, she does her chores on her own, pays her own bills, exercises, and takes care of everything else.
You will be welcome to join her and help of course, but do not expect her to wait for your opinion in every matter. She is not the kind to serve her man like an ideal partner. If you spend the night at her place, do not expect her to get up before you and serve you breakfast in bed. She may do it of course, but in all probability, she'll prefer catching up on sleep.
Also, do not expect her to consult you in every matter, take you permission, report to you, and whatever else. She'll do none of that. She can make friends in a jiffy. Oh yeah, she loves to be alone, and yet, she can be the life of the party if she needs to be. She loves to socialize, so if you take her to a party full of unknown people, you can be sure she will know more than half of them by the time the party is done. She is comfortable in her own skin. What's more, the friends she has known for a long time will be quite protective of her.
So if you are dating her, be ready to face a barrage of questions from her friends, who want to make sure you are the right guy for her. She enjoys chivalry as long as it is not overdone. She will like you to open the door for her, pull out her chair, and be treated like a woman. She will like you to make plans. Do not go overboard though, making her feel like Royalty, or else she will find the lack of spark in the relationship and may walk off.
She is financially independent. She will split the restaurant bills with you, she will refuse expensive gifts, she will pay for every single thing herself. She will never ask you for money, and if she does, she will pay you back as soon as possible. You can be sure she is better at financial planning than you are, and she has already saved enough for her needs and retirement.
She will most certainly not want to lean on your shoulder for financial support. She can be stubborn sometimes, wanting her own way. She is intelligent enough, and so may be stubborn and adamant about handling things in a particular way. She does this because she has already done it before, and she does not need any advice for the same.
If she needs suggestions, she will ask you without any inhibitions. So, let her do things her own way. Do not fight her, challenge her instead.
She is not the clingy, needy kind. She is certainly not the one who clings and whines, and she will not like you to be one either. If you give her even a slight indication of you needing her every minute, there is very much a chance that she will leave you immediately.
Extremely needy people are a big turn-off for such women. She can do what is termed as 'manly' work with complete ease. Don't even think she will be in trouble when she has to do the typical 'tough' work, as people put it.
She is perfectly capable of changing the light bulb in her bathroom, filling up gas at the gas station, repairing her own car, and fixing stuff around the house. If you want to offer help, say so without a chauvinistic note in your voice. She likes her own space, and she'll give you space too. If you want to go out with your friends, she will be more than happy. She respects privacy, and she needs her own space.
She may sometimes want to go out for a night of fun with her friends; do not keep questioning her about where she is going and for how long, even if that is your way of showing concern.
She is capable enough of taking care of herself, and she will not like you invading your personal space. She loves the complete freedom of her private life. She believes in the institution of marriage, with the right person of course.
She will love to marry and settle down, she will love her spouse and cherish him, as long as she feels he is 'the one'. If not, she will hate to be tied down and would want to get out of the relationship as soon as possible. She may not need people at all. It is true that everyone needs someone at some point, and independent women are no exceptions. However, they do not need anyone in their life as a rule; they are not desperate. They are firm and self-reliant, and at times, they seem so strong, you may wonder if they need anyone at all.
The fact is, they do, but can do without as well. And, when they do need you, they will cherish you so much, you'll feel like the luckiest person on the planet. She is extremely loving, caring, and loyal, when she needs to be. She is ever loving and caring, just not in the conventional way. She will love you with all her heart, and will love to receive the same in return. In the beginning, she will take things slowly, for she does not want to lose her identity amidst the lavish attention she is receiving.
Also, when she realizes that she is beginning to like you more than necessary, she will take a step backwards. Don't worry, just give her time to work things out in her mind and set a balance between her love for you and her independence. If she really loves you, she will stand by you even if the entire world is against you.