Ever wondered what dating is like in Japan? Well, then here you go! If you want to read about bragging stories of all those Western guys who get laid a hundred times per day, then you came to the wrong place. There are tons of blog posts like that out there. Dating is not the same for foreign women and men!
You might ask yourself why is that? A lot of Japanese women want a guy that tells them several times a day how much he loves them. For some reason maybe through the consumption of too many Hollywood movies Japanese women think that foreign men are like that! Japanese men seem to expect certain things from a woman. Things that they fear a foreign woman would not agree to do e. Another problem is that many of the Japanese men seem to be afraid of their English ability and thus fail to approach a foreign woman.
Most foreign men on the other hand, have no issues approaching a Japanese woman in English — or even in broken Japanese. These are just a few theories by friends, co-workers and myself. Dating in Japan as a foreign man: As a result, dating in Japan is usually quite easy for men. For some reason Japanese women seem to find even ugly foreign guys attractive …..
All in all, it is comparably easy for a Western foreign man to find a Japanese woman or to have a nice relationship here in Japan.
For some guys it really gets to their heads and they start bragging about it like crazy as part of the superstar syndrome. Dating in Japan as a foreign woman: The complete opposite is the case for Western foreign women in Japan. As a result it is extremely tough to find a date as a foreign woman here in Japan. Some of us will go through a hard time here in Japan. It might be a different story in bigger cities such as Tokyo and Osaka with a more international community, but in smaller cities and in the countryside with more traditional ideals it can be very difficult for foreign women.
I personally know a few couples where either the man or the woman is foreign and I noticed quite a lot of differences in the kind of relationship they have. Please note that the following is based on my personal experience and that not everybody out there is like that. Foreign man, Japanese woman: In relationships where the man is foreign I noticed that they mostly speak his native language. One big problem seems to be the fact that in Japan the man earns the money, but the woman takes care of it!
The man only gets a small allowance every week or month and needs to ask his wife for permission if he wants to spend any more of his own hard-earned money! Foreign guys often seem to struggle with this system. I noticed that those kind of relationships seem to work out better if they live in his home country and not in Japan. Foreign woman, Japanese man: She has studied Japanese properly or puts in a lot of effort to improve her Japanese ability even if the Japanese man can speak her native tongue.
The man seems to accept that she wants to keep working even after marriage. All the couples I know of have a relatively harmonic relationship. Of course, there are enough reasons for disputes, but all in all they seem to manage better than couples where the man is foreign. All I want you to keep in mind is that as a guy you should not let it get to your head because suddenly you get all this attention from beautiful women.
And as a foreign girl you should keep in mind that your time in Japan — at least in terms of romantic relationships — could be quite lonely at times.