We just love the allure of the chase. So we spend endless nights pining over somebody who is all coupled up and happy, wishing we were with them instead. It's so easy to do. It can be heartbreaking too and very difficult to get over.
It's no good for you! Being wrapped up in somebody who is taken is preventing you from seeing all of the other amazing fish who are out there. It makes you do some really stupid things too, that you will regret for a long time. You might try and slide in there or hit on your crush, because they really should be with you right?
You might do lots of different reckless and annoying things because you're crushing so bad. But it's not worth it. It's not worth losing sight of your morals or embarrassing yourself for the sake of somebody who you just can't be with right now. So here's your guide to dealing with the heartache and dumb behaviour that comes with being into someone who is taken.
Advertising [x] 15 Try to break the couple up Really!? I shouldn't have to tell you this. If the couple is as strong as they oh so annoyingly appear to be all of your efforts will be to no avail. The consequences of trying to break up a happy couple however are plentiful.
Anybody who finds out about what you've been trying to do will also think you're a bad person. You'll also feel like a bad person for doing it because really you are a bad person for even attempting something like that.
Plus, do you really want to start a relationship on such a negative? Anyway, DON'T come on to your crush because you will regret it. If they're the amazing person you think they are they won't cheat on their partner. And so you'll be the one that's left high and dry, and more than a little red-faced.
But let's say you do manage to woo the one you want into bed. There are no two ways of looking at it, helping someone cheat is just as bad as being the cheater. It's just morally wrong and you're better than that. But you certainly won't find what you're looking for at the end of a wine bottle, you'll actually never find what you're looking for at the end of a wine bottle.
Unless what you're looking for is a big helping of hangover guilt. Because the tipsier you get the more likely you are to do something reckless, such as following your crush around all night and finally coming onto them probably in a gross and highly embarrassing manner. Because you really won't enjoy what you see. The more you stalk their wall and albums the more envious you'll get.
You're basically just torturing yourself by doing this and it will only be upsetting if you're really into that person.
Try to resist, and if you're really struggling block them from your feed so you can't see all of the adorable pictures of them with their partner, grr! You might be just dying to ask them questions about your crush, about his or her relationship too.
Basically you're just digging for stuff that will make you feel better. You have this dark desire to hear about all of the fall-outs and the cracks because you feel like you might be in with more of a chance. Also, you might just end up hearing the things you don't want to hear i. Somebody else has what you want, they beat you to the prize. But as much as you want to hate this crush, they're probably really not bad at all.
It's not their fault that they have the hots for the person you have the hots for. If you start to get too jealous it's inevitable that you will do something you regret. You'll wind up treating somebody bad when they've done absolutely nothing wrong. It might be the way they're so kind to others or the way they're so smart and talented or any other number of reasons. This means they're somebody you want in your life. Just because you secretly want them doesn't mean you shouldn't be friends.
Don't stop respecting them for not being with you either. Take a step back and realize that they can't help not being into you right now as much as you can't help being into them.