Questions start to flood your mind: Do I offer to pay? Did I do everything I could have to impress my date? Will there be a second date? Dates can be stressful, especially first dates, but by following some dating etiquette, a woman can relax and enjoy the experience.
Here are some guidelines to help you handle awkward situations involving the bill, and some other general dating advice for women. What can you order on the date? The financial aspect of dating is much different for a first date, for example, than it is for a fourth or fifth date.
Here is some advice for a woman going on a first date: Even if the man asked you out by offering to pay for your dinner, bring enough money to pay. The man may forget his wallet, or be unable to fully cover the bill. Perhaps he intended to split the bill from the beginning. Be Considerate of What You Order. A first date is not the time to order the most expensive item on the menu, or to order multiple courses and pricey drinks.
By the end of the date, you may quickly decide that the guy is not right for you. It would be inappropriate to let him know you are not interested, after he just spent half his paycheck on you. If the man asks you to pick the restaurant, choose a moderately-priced restaurant or find restaurant discounts and coupons. You do not want the man to have to pay for an expensive dinner, and you do not want to insult him by selecting a cheap restaurant.
Subtly Offer to Pay. While most men will pay, it is important to make sure that the man knows you did not just go on the date for a free dinner. Some men will be insulted if you offer to pay, so you need to subtly hint that you are willing to pay. For instance, when the check comes to the table, reach for your purse. Chances are that the man will tell you not to worry about it as he reaches for his wallet. Just thank him, and let him know that you appreciate his gesture. Simply offer to split the bill, which is fair.
Subsequent Dates Ladies, after you have been on your first date or two with a man, the rules change a little. Do not expect the man to continue to pay for nice dinners and evenings out, even though some men will still pay. Here is some advice as your dating relationship gets more serious: You always want to arrive prepared, and if this is your second, third, or fourth date, the man may or may not allow you to pay, but at least you have shown that you are willing.
It all depends on his belief system, how he was raised, and his current financial situation. If you continue to date this gentleman, there may be a time when you feel it is right to discuss the financial aspect of dates. A conversation about how bills are split on dates helps both of you to understand what to expect. If this is going to be a lasting relationship, this may be the first of many difficult conversations about finances, and it is important to open the lines of communication from the very beginning.
Do What Works as a Couple. In this modern era of working women, there are a lot more options when it comes to paying for a date. Perhaps you decide to take turns paying, or perhaps the man decides he always wants to pay.
The key is to communicate about money, so that there are no hard feelings. General Dating Etiquette for Women Although the financial aspect of dating has changed drastically in recent decades, it is just one aspect of dating etiquette.
Here is some more general etiquette advice for women going out on dates: Give Him a Chance. You may have had a long week at work, and you may be tired of the dating scene, but if you have agreed to go out on a date, you need to put your best foot forward. The man you are going out with may have been looking forward to this date all week, and perhaps had to step out of his comfort zone to ask you out. Have a good attitude and an open mind while you are on the date. You could end up having the night of your life.
You may not feel like dressing up or trying to impress your date, but he may be expecting more than jeans and an old t-shirt. If a man is buying you a nice dinner or dressing up for you, show your appreciation by freshening up before you go on your date. It is a nice gesture, especially since men really enjoy seeing the woman they are taking out all dressed up.
Unfortunately, women are known for being late. Show your date respect by arriving on time. If you know you will be running behind, call ahead to let your date know. That way, he is not wondering if you have bailed. There is no bigger turnoff than a woman talking about her old boyfriends. If you say something positive about an old boyfriend, it shows that you admire him and may still have feelings for him.
Another turnoff is when someone dominates the conversation, so make sure you give the man a chance to talk about himself. That is also the only way you will get to know him. If you talk about marriage or children, you may come off as too desperate, and it may scare your date away.
Show your date some respect by avoiding a pushy subject, such as marriage, too early in your relationship. First of all, if the man is paying, he will pay for all your drinks, which will quickly add up on the bill. Most importantly, you need to make sure you are thinking straight. Be Interested in Him. Hopefully he will show the same respect for you. It takes courage for a man to step out of his comfort zone and ask out a woman, so be honest and straightforward with him.
Let the man be the pursuer, and wait for him to contact you. Be honest, and do it at the end of the first date or soon after. End the Date if Necessary. Just say that you are ready to call it a night. There is no reason to carry on the date through coffee and dessert if it is miserable and not going anywhere. Final Word The most important piece of dating etiquette for a woman is to be respectful of the man you are dating. Be respectful of how you treat him, and be respectful of his wallet if he is paying.
If you respect him, he will respect you, and hopefully that will lead to a long and happy relationship together, lasting much longer than a few dinner dates! What are your thoughts on dating etiquette for women? Should women pay for dinner on the first date?