Answered 73w ago In one word.. Attended Speed Meet 1. It was happening for the first time in India so my curiosity was at an all time high. The workaholic in me decided to skip office and attend the same. The whackiest thing I ever did in my lifetime was to attend a Gay parade!
And yes, that too in India! Did it just for experience, and trust me it feels super awkward! If it was not for my favorite client who happens to be a proud gay and I love him!! Coming back to the speed dating event, I was getting vibes as if this experience will surpass the gay parade one.
But I couldn't have been less wrong! Being quite shy and not the one to follow rules if they don't resonate with me, tips which read wear red lipstick just didn't make the cut. Clarified with the organizing team if they wish to reconsider my nomination. I will just be myself, even if I do not get a single Yes! The event started late, approx. Some teething troubles, and made the most of it!
Went on to talk to the guy on whom I had set my eyes on since he walked in, and had a great conversation. Words just flow in when you are with the right person, even though you don't count yourself as a brilliant conversationalist.
Yes, we did not do it discreetly. Sorry organizers, the feeling was mutual! There were many with whom I had a good conversation, but nothing clicked. Good crowd, and nice mix of people from varied backgrounds. Kudos to the organizing team, I must say! By the 4th or 5th time people started to feel irritated talking about the same old things…work, education and hobbies Still, felt really nice to have 12 different and non-robotic conversations.
Guess that was the key! We had a nominal entry fee and got a complimentary drink, so a quick conversation over your favorite drink was the super casual setting for such an event.
Loved every moment of it. After the entire process we needed to hand over our sheets to the organizers. My super analyzing brain did think of the various possibilities - What will the organizers think if I end up saying Yes to all? The initial ones were quite good, and then the quality dipped. Or may be, everyone was pissed off by then What if I select just one? Honestly, this turned out to be the real scenario. My sheet says otherwise right now What if I say No to all?
Should I fill it in the end? Forgot some names even before they left my table, so that was a BAD idea! It was an open discussion after the 5 minute conversations, and had some more perspective sharing with men and women.
Some rejected all as they were curious souls who wanted to experience it ONLY. Quite selective so just passed a smile to people who didn't clear my cut off and moved on. Ended up talking to a girl more than the guys! And yes, didn't notice other girls at all, except for this girl, who happened to be on time and we waited together for people to join in.
Crush towards the end to continue where we left. And needless to say, was jealous to see him talking to someone else over beer. Realized that true personal or even professional growth is in doing things outside your comfort zone. Thought a zillion times before walking in, and thankfully don't regret my decision. Was super nervous before my first scuba dive as well but did it anyway!
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, for sure.